Right or Wrong?

This was something that someone said to me a while ago, but I was talking about it with a friend recently and I thought I would write a little blog and see what you guys thought about it!

What does Marriage mean to you?
The Oxford dictionary gives it the definition as “The legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship:

To me, marriage is something that you do whenever you really love someone. It’s a way of showing someone that you love them so much that you can’t imagine or want to think of life without them. You love them unconditionally and want to be with them for the rest of your life.
What would you say marriage means to you?

The reason I ask is that my little girl has told us since her brother was a week old, that they will get married, and she can’t wait to wear a pretty dress. She likes to play weddings and pretend to get married to him, they then have to have a fancy dinner and dance. She was at my wedding you see, that is why she is clued in! πŸ˜›

I personally, find it absolutely beautiful. To me it shows how great her love is for him and how much she cares and cherishes him! I never tell her not to say it, I never tell her that she can’t or that it is wrong. She is three, does she really need to know that she can’t, she will learn that as she grows. Should I really tell her that it is wrong? Taint the way that she views it all? Because to me.. Marriage really is about love, and if she thinks this and this is her way of telling us just how much she loves her brother, why should I tell her off? Surely it will just confuse her little innocent mind?

One of my husbands friends partner was over our house whenever my little girl announced to her that she was going to marry her brother. This woman then started to say in a loud and horrible voice “You can’t do that, that is disgusting thing to say” “That is incest” “ewww” and the such… she then started to say to me “how can you let her say that?” i politely replied with “Personally I think its pretty cute actually, she really loves him.” When they then left I said to my husband about it and how I thought that her even saying that to my daughter was completely wrong, that if she didn’t agree with that she should have just ignored it and let us handle with it, if we thought it needed dealt with.

Thankfully my daughter just ignored her and asked me what did she say and I just said that she was talking to mummy.

I remember when I was younger I wanted to get a big house and live with my brother and sister forever on a farm. I wanted to marry my brother at some stage too! Not a clue why mind you… hes a bit .. different! πŸ˜›

Though I was just wondering what was your view on this? Am I in the wrong, is it completely disgusting? Or is it just a lovely way of her expressing her feelings and how much she loves him?

WeeOhana x

6 thoughts on “Right or Wrong?

  1. Ha. She needs to quickly build a bridge.

    I was one of those little girls who would tell the world she was gonna marry her Daddy. As I’ve grown up, I’ve noticed other little girls proclaim the same. You’re young, you love your Daddy and you’re not afraid to say so.

    You grow out of saying it,as there would come a day when it goes from cute to gross, but your little girl is long off it! πŸ™‚


      • Sarah is right here. Your friends being a numpty… And I am guessing I know who it was πŸ˜‰

        They are tiny children – she is not thinking any further than wanting to be with her bro forever. It’ll pass though, dont worry. Could you imagine marrying our bro now *shockhorror*


      • Yeah, the one that you love! πŸ˜›
        Aw I wasn’t worrying as I find it really cute and have done since she started saying it! Just wasn’t sure if I was really strange thinking it was cute lol!
        Haha … Yeah that would be pretty horrific! Lol,a


  2. Your friend totally overreacted and needs to understand that children are mostly uncomplicated little beings and your little girl meant exactly what she said, that she wants to tell the world that she wants to stay with her brother forever. I think it’s adorable that your she loves her brother so much she wants to marry him. I wish mine were the same, my crazy children seem to spend their whole time fighting!


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