My daughter always makes me proud, and I try to ensure that she is very aware of how proud she makes me. Especially when it comes to her brother.
Yes, like many brother and sisters they fight, dislike each other at times and want the same toy as what the other is playing with.
Though having a brother like Dylan is a lot more challenging than just the usual arguments and misunderstanding that happen between siblings.
It means that Amellia has had to learn a whole new way to play, interact and socialize with him among with many other things.
She is currently waiting for him to say her name and asks on a regular basis do we think he will ever say her name. This is always a hard questions to answer because as much as we hope he will gain speech soon we cannot guarantee or promise this.
She longs to play duplo with him, kick a football about and get up to mischief together like you would expect from having a sibling around.
She has adapted how she plays with Dylan, and if she really wants to get his attention she knows how to do this;will wave her hand in front of his face, or show him a train close by and this generally works. He also loves being spun in his chair that she has so she will often spin him in this and it is great when you can hear them both giggling away together. Its times I treasure and they really melt my heart. You learn to really treasure these moments as they are far and few between, so when they do happen they are just magical.
Sometimes though it just makes him angry and lash out. Unfortunately but also thankfully she is getting better at dodging his aggressive swings for her when she does something he doesn’t like, or want to do. She is starting to learn the signs for when he wants to play or for when he just needs left alone.
Amellia really keeps me thinking positivly about all that is going on in our little family, yes sometimes things are really tough for her and we ensure that she gets time out to be a typical 5-year-old without having to worry about leaving if Dylan dislikes a place or whatever we have chosen to do that day but her understanding when Dylan gets overwhelmed by a place is absolutely magnificent. She will often say to me if it just me taking them to the park that she is ok with leaving if Dylan doesn’t like it when we get there.
I also really admire how proud of her brother she is, when we are out and she is talking to someone she will openly say about her brother having autism and people are generally shocked by how open she is and never quite know what to reply. She will then go on to tell them about Autism and how it affects her brother and that sometimes he will get mad, but he isn’t doing it to be mean, he just can’t understand you and doesn’t know how to tell you what he thinks.
Yesterday she came home from school and nearly had me in tears.
She came up to me and told me that we don’t need to send Dylan to the school that we have seen for him because she is going to open a school just for children with autism. She is going to make it with a soft play room, sensory room, colouring and a room especially for Dylan with Thomas the Tank engine all over it.
Then she went on to tell us about how she will let them play most of the day so that they don’t get upset and she will try to teach them but if they get upset she will have an Ipad there for them to use to help to calm him down and they can then play letter games on it to help them to learn.
My heart melted.. My little girl amazes me everyday. She is so understanding, caring, loving and wants to just help in every way that she can.
When we explained to her that he will be a little to old when she has done she said that’s ok then mummy, because I can help other children like Dylan and he can come in and help me ❤
Dylan is so lucky to have a sister like her, and she helps him so much and wouldn’t ever be without him.
She tells me often that when I get older and I can’t look after Dylan anymore she will live with him so that she can keep him safe and make sure that he has the best life he can. She doesn’t want to get married or have any children so that she can always be there for Dylan when he needs her.
Simply put; I think he is the luckiest little brother and she is the most understanding big sister around.