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3rd Birthday!

On Saturday Dylan turned three.
I mean how fast was that? It feels like he was only just a tiny little newborn, though in other ways it feels like it has gone so slow with all the constant waiting for appointments.

Dylan spent his day doing exactly what he wanted too do, what better way to spend your birthday?
Amellia was awake first and came and lay in our bed with us until Dylan was awake and ready to go downstairs. Thankfully we didn’t have to wait too long before he woke up but it gave me enough time to try and explain to Amellia that he wouldn’t be eager to unwrap his presents like she is and to let him look at them in his own time.

We weren’t really sure what to expect with the unwrapping thing and how he would even react to the whole day. We only wrapped a few of his presents to try and help him not get too overwhelmed,. With it being impossible to explain to him that it was his birthday or what a birthday was we couldn’t prepare him for what to expect which is the same for everything that we do with him and one of the reasons why he struggles so much.
With it being his birthday and him having no clue and no excitement its a pretty tough hit to take as a parent. You always think of your children loving there birthdays and having the best day ever, but to Dylan this was just like any other day with a few new toys.

When we got downstairs he headed straight for the Elmo and cookie monster teddies that we had got him as he totally adores sesame street at the moment and he has always loves teddies of programs that he loves. He would have played with these all day but Amellia was desperate for him to open his presents from family over in Wales, thankfully I was able to distract her for a little while so that Dylan could have a little play, but she was so excited that it didn’t last too long.

With a little bit of encouragement and a helping hand from Amellia he got his presents unwrapped and had lots of fun looking at what he had got.


After we had had breakfast I then took Amellia out to play in the snow so that Dylan could have a look at his presents by himself and enjoy them slowly while she wasted some of her never ending energy racing about in the snow and getting some quality time with myself too.

After we had defrosted a little inside it was time for grandparents to come over. We enjoyed some cake, more presents and chat. Amellia then took her grampy back outside to throw snowballs and go sledding. She really loves the snow. It also meant that the house was quieter again for Dylan to help him regulate himself.

After everyone then had left we had treated the kiddies to McDonalds for Dylans birthday dinner as this is something that he actually eats. Madness right, but apparently no one makes chips like McDonalds.
Amellia & Adrian headed back outside for a last play in the snow before bed and then as if by some miracle Dylan took my hand and stood by the door. Now if you read my recent post you will understand why this was a huge step, so I very quickly got his shoes & coat on and mine then opened the door. I expected him to slam the door right away but wanted to be prepared just in-case.
He took my hand and marched off down the street!!
I was over the moon, I mean what he has been like recently about going outside and then he does this it was incredible! He wanted to stay outside all evening though, so we let him walk round the block a few times and I headed in while Adrian did another lap so that I could make inside even more exciting that out!
After a little fuss he came inside happily and watched Storybots while playing with some goo.

After this real emotional high for us and thinking the day had gone pretty well Dylan then quickly changed. After getting his pjs on he had a huge meltdown. Amellia was trying so hard giving him his favourite toys and everything she could think he would like but every time he was just lashing out at her, so Adrian took her upstairs before she ended up hurt and we could see how hard she was trying to help him and was getting frustrated that she couldn’t help.
He wanted me to stand up, but not touch him or be near him so I sat on the sofa and he was pulling me back up. I tried everything I could think of and in the end I just kept putting him back on the matt we have so to prevent him from hurting himself when he was head banging.
It was getting to the stage where I was hoping the snow would disappear so I could take him for a drive as I just had no idea what else to try. I ended up just sorting the room out around him so he could still see me and I was stood up because me sitting for some reason was really annoying him and then the next thing I knew he had passed out he had screamed so much.

Poor boy, it was horrible.
The day had just caught up with him and was too much.
-WeeOhana

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My Sunday Photo – 10.12.17

My daughter has been wishing for snow for the past few weeks, and I really didn’t think this wish would come true as we don’t often get enough snow to be exciting but this weekend we did! She was the happiest little girl ever it was simply wonderful to see the pure joy it brought her.

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img_1315Dylan wasn’t so sure what to make of the snow and spent most of the time hiding inside with the curtains shut and the heating on, but he did take a little walk outside in the evening.
He also turned 3 this weekend!
Can we please slow down time, it sure does fly by when you have little ones!
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-WeeOhana

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Regression :(

Dylan has had a rather large & pretty upsetting regression recently.
He is finding anything outside of the security of his home a huge challenge.
Things Dylan used to really enjoy have become nearly impossible for him, and the hard thing is we have no idea what started this regression and what has made him so scared of being outside of the home.

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Parks have always been a little bit of a struggle for Dylan, but he used to be able to last about 15 minutes before he would start showing signs of distress and the need to leave, and this was ok. We could generally distract him and get him to stay for about 20 minutes which then meant Amellia got a nice amount of time to play too, but now its as soon as you even go into the car park.
You pull into the car park and he can see the park and this is a park that he has been to many times before so it isn’t a new environment that is setting him off and he just starts screaming and lashing around in his car seat. When you then take him out and set him down he is inconsolable, and because he doesn’t have any understanding to what you are saying to him it feels like an impossible task to help him understand that the park is fun, safe and you can enjoy it.
I can understand how this must sound crazy to most parents, I mean a child not enjoying a park it even seems crazy too me, how can my child not enjoy the park?
I have to teach my child that the park is a fun and safe place, that i itsn’t somewhere to be feared.
What makes it really hard for me to understand and to see is that if you walk to a park when he is in his pram he is trying to clamber out of his pram as is desperate to get out and play but as soon as his feet touch the ground when you get him out he just crumbles and cannot handle it.

Somewhere else that Dylan used to really enjoy going to is a little Mums & Tots that I go to that is just for children with additional needs. He used to love it, would run in most times sometimes he would have a little fuss but then would head straight to the ball pool and would spend the time happily pottering about doing whatever he fancied.
As of recent this is not the case at all. As soon as you pull into the car park he is screaming in the car and is not happy. I settle him down by letting him into the front of the car and he then pushes all the buttons and we head in.. as soon as the doors open he is straight on the floor screaming and giving off.. you would think I had taken him to a torture chamber and not a place he used to love.
Fortunately I don’t feel just as judged here as I would anywhere else. Many here understand and are very supportive, and I really think key to this all is making friends and chatting to people who are in the same situation as it really is an extremely hard one to understand unless you are in it too.

His favourite place to go used to be up to the horse where he loved getting involved with mucking out, making up the feed and just being around the horses, now he will just lay on the floor screaming and it is really horrible to watch, somewhere he used to really love and is so eager to get out of the car but as soon as he does something just stops him from being able to enjoy it.

I just wish he could tell me in some way what is going on, what is stopping him from enjoying these things and how to help because right now I feel pretty useless.

-WeeOhana

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Getting Dylan’s Education Plan Underway

We finally have started the ball rolling for getting Dylan sorted with a school.
The education board came out and asked us many questions though this wasn’t after me phoning them and gently reminding them that they are meant to have seen a child within 22 days of accepting them.
A lovely and friendly lady came over to meet Dylan and chat all about him so that she could get a full and informed report to help him get through all the stages quickly and hopefully with as little fighting as possible.IMG_0870.jpg

Like the majority of Dylan’s appointments it was pretty tough. You find that you are always talking about what he can’t do and what he should be doing, They ask you if he can do certain things and 9 times out of 10 its a “nope he can’t do that.” I know that this is to get him the help that he needs and to ensure that he gets it but as a parent it is a really tough thing to do.

I was hoping that this appointment would lift a whole load of stress off my shoulders and settle down a whole heap of the worry I was having unfortunately it did not. I understand that the lady who came out to us doesn’t want to give false hope but she said that she couldn’t tell us either way if Dylan would get through the Stages but then also went on to tell us that it isn’t often that she goes out to see children as young as Dylan and it is so obvious to her that they are autistic.
When she left I was so confused. How could she say such contradicting things, though she recently called to let us know that he has got through stage three easily and her boss has told her that she thinks Dylan will get up to Stage five without any questions. Fingers crossed it all goes how it is meant too, and then we can start the fight to get a school close to us and that we think will suit him best.

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She did though also tell me on the phone that her boss thinks he will be best suited to a school for children with severe learning difficulties and we have been told this by several people recently which has been pretty hard to take.
I hadn’t really spent much time thinking about this but it was a rather heavy thing to take and made it clear to me just how hard he does find life, how challenging his behaviour really is and just how much I do for him.

As his mum I do everything for him daily and just get on with it, I don’t put much thought into how much extra support I give him compared to other children his age, but when I think about it, and see other children younger or his age it really makes things hit home. You see them chatting to their parents, shouting for their mum when they are distressed or want something, running about and playing with other children, choosing what to buy in shops, walking down the street beside their parents, turning around when they hear their name.. and many, many other things.

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It’s really tough, really, really tough.
When I heard this, had it confirmed by other professionals who have seem him on many occasions and really thought about how he actually is, it started me on a downward spiral.

-WeeOhana

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DIS – Week 6 – Last 1

I went along with a little sadness to Dylan’s final DIS appointment, the past six weeks seem to have flown by and with this being the last one it brought along many feelings.

I was feeling pretty annoyed that they now don’t offer two sets of this and only do the one, I wish they would still do two because Dylan really showed lots of progress while attending this and I think if it was for a longer course I would then also see the benefits, progress and advancements outside of the DIS room too.
I was also upset because Dylan had really enjoyed this and had really started to enjoy going into the children’s centre and I know next time we go in he will lose the plot.
Full of happiness and being proud of Dylan too because he has coped so well, grown to love going and had came so far with her.

The speech therapist came along too see him at the last one as she is the one who had referred us on to the DIS but had told us not too expect too much. After the second one I was thinking that she was right and he wouldn’t get too far along the course before we deemed it a waste of time. She came in about 5 minutes after we had got started and she said she just couldn’t believe the difference and that it was like she was with a completely different child in the room. Because she has seen that routine is really key for Dylan she is going to try and get a regular speech and language slot for him which would be fantastic as I think this would really help him.

DIS was great and I would advise you if you have been offered it to give it a shot no matter how you expect it to go. We really didn’t think Dylan was going to be ready for it at all, but he showed us that routine really is key to everything he does.

(Sorry this post is coming to you pretty long after we went to our last DIS, but we have had lots of appointments recently and I haven’t really been coping to well either, but will update you on everything in the next few blog posts.)

What is DIS?
DIS Week 1
DIS Week 2
DIS Week 3
DIS Week 4
DIS Week 5

-WeeOhana

 

 

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ToddleBike2 Review, Discount Code & Giveaway!

Many autistic children have poor motor skills and this makes many things challenging that you wouldn’t necessarily think about unless you were in the situation.
When I was offered the chance to try out the ToddleBike2 for Dylan I was really excited to see what he would make of it. The ToddleBike2 is really like a step before the very popular balance bikes you can get, it has four wheels and teaches the very basics of using a bike before having to worry about keeping the bike upright too.

The ToddleBike2 is aimed at children aged 18-36 months but can really be used by a lot large range of ages, Amellia loves Dylans ToddleBike2 and she is six years old! It has been tested up the weight of 100kg so your older ones can enjoy it too, without having to worry that it will break and it also has a 3 year guarantee just in case something is to happen.

IMG_0727.jpgThe ToddleBike2 is also extremely light and Dylan really enjoyed carrying it about for the first while and inspecting it. It took a little while of him carrying it about and playing with the wheels before he tried to sit on it.
With it only weighing 0.8kg it is really light to carry and would be perfect for taking out on walks and then when little one has had enough it is easily carrier for a parent!
We are going to keep to using it inside for longer for Dylan to grow his confidence on it but I know that it will be used a lot next summer when Amellia is out on her bike too!

IMG_1082Dylan started of sitting on it sideways and trying to shuffle along on the ToddleBike2 and really wasn’t sure how he was meant to make it move.

After some demonstration from his beloved Elmo and pushing Elmo about he then hoped on board himself and followed suit!

Look at that wonderful smile! Once he had is sussed he absolutely loved it, was on it all day and every time I put it into the kitchen he is bringing it back into the living room.
I really can’t wait to head out when Dylan is a bit more aware of his surroundings and the ToddleBike2 will go on many different surfaces with its lovely smooth wheels.

I totally love this ToddleBike2, when it arrived I was surprised at how small it was but do not let its size put you off. In fact, the size & how light it is really adds to just how brilliant this ToddleBike2 is. Another thing which I cannot believe is the little price tag to go along with how wonderful this bike is! It costs £23.95 and has free shipping to the UK & Ireland. Though if you aren’t lucky enough to win the giveaway I also have a 10% discount code to use here, the code is BLOG17!

Here is your chance to win a ToddleBike2 for your little one or a little one that you may know! You have to be in UK & Ireland to enter and you will have the choice of pink, red or blue. This will run until the 29th of November, Good Luck!!

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