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Hopefully Planning can help.

Recently my head seems completely filled with everything that is going on.
If I’m not going to an appointment that week, I’m making one and having to check that it wont clash with the several other appointments that area already made. Then with everything that is going on my head never seems to stop thinking, worrying, planning and mainly just trying to get my head around it all to understand it.

To try to help with organising appointments so that they aren’t all constantly buzzing around in my head and to enable me to make them when I am out and not having to call once I’m home to either change or cancel if he already has one I purchased a lovely little handbag size monthly planner. What makes it even more wonderful is that it has some lovely little motivational quotes throughout it too. It is really beautiful and even better than I expected when I ordered it.

What I really like is that it has a month on each page, so it is quick and easy to see when I am free for appointments and when I am not.
I am rather looking forward to filling it in and even more excited now because I was invited along to the opening of a lovely little stationery type shop called Smiggle.
They sell a variety of things, from scented pencils, gel pens, backpacks, lunch boxes, games, jewellery etc! Everything was so bright and colourful in the shop, and I really loved that the items aimed at boys were brightly coloured.

The members of staff in the shop were so wonderful with Amellia as she was very excited by it all. One of the ladies took Amellia around and showed her some of their fun and exciting pens that they do and helped her choose a few items that she would like. She decided on a pen with a unicorn on it that fires, a boxing owl pen and a set of highlighters.

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I now have a lovely little selection of scented gel pens, highlights and a few other bits and pieces to make my pocket planner even easier to see who is doing what.
If you are near a Smiggle you should really pop along and have a nosy around, I bet you wont be able to resist all of the cuteness!

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-WeeOhana

*-* *disclaimer* I was given some of these stationary items from Smiggle free of charge to include them in a post *-*

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Time goes too fast!

Next week my baby girl is turning six and I just can’t believe it!
In some ways time seems to have just gone so fast, but in others it feels like moments were so long ago!
She has grown into a crazy, hyper, loving, button pushing, understanding and majorly beautiful little girl!
She stole my heart the moment she was born and we got through a really tough time together at the very start of her little wonderful life on this earth. She came when I needed her the most and is now such a beautiful little ray of sunshine!
If I ever feel down, she will do anything to make me laugh, if I’m feeling like a giant child and I just want to mess around then she is always very pleased to join in and if I ever need a hand (majority of the time) she will help!

She got her main birthday present early, it was a ‘big’ girls bike!
We decided to give it to her early so that she could use it for a while during the summer time before she headed back to school. She really enjoys going out on her bike, but I hope that with not using it as much over the winter that she wont forget how to do It and lose her confidence, I will have to try and get Ad to take her out often.
Obviously we have got her some things for on her birthday but we have decided to not go quite so mad as we did for her last birthday and Christmas.. it was rather a lot!

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I can’t thank Ad enough for all the support, love, encouragement, care, compassion, fun, and many other things that he shows Amellia. They completely adore each other and she really does idealize him!

Ad; Thank you so much for everything you do for us, you treat her wonderfully and we all love you too the moon and back! Always & Forever.
Amellia; You are an incredible little girl, I am so proud of you for everything you do! Just please.. Stop growing up so fast!!!

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Think about you.

Trying to keep on top of your own mental health is really vital in life.
I feel that it is really essential to try to keep a check on yourself whenever you have a child with additional needs.
It does completely take over on all of your thinking, planning, time and very quickly you can get very worn down.

You need to stop, breath and think about you.
How are you feeling?
– If you aren’t sure, talk to someone. A friend, partner, someone who understands. If you regularly feel low, that you can’t take much more contact your GP for a chat.

When is the last time you did something for you?
– Have you managed to have some time to yourself or with other adults to actually relax?
I don’t mean just tidying when the kids have gone to bed, having a coffee, I mean something properly for you. Make sure to visit your friends, get out of the house and go for a walk, go to the shops and only look at things for you, do something that you enjoy and try to make it a regular thing!

Are you just holding on, or are you standing up tall? 
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Standing up tall? Fantastic! Though if you are just holding on, feel like you are at the edge, stretched too your limit, at the edge. Seek help. With kids with additional needs you never know what is around the corner and you don’t want it to be the thing to tip you over.
Your child/ren need you. More so than others, if you won’t fight to get them what they need, who will? GPs are very understanding and supportive. Don’t make an appointment for a few weeks down the line, take the emergency appointment and get seen that day. You need it.

Yes, you may have been here before and got back on your feet, and forgotten it for a while, but it will come back when you least expect it.
Please don’t feel embarrassed, scared, afraid, just make that phone call.
Your family and friends may tell you that it will all be ok and that you are ok, but you have to feel it too, and I’m sure if you are in this position you do not feel it.
Them shrugging off what you tell them, ignoring it, or just replying with the generic “you will be ok.” That is not enough.
Go to the doctor, talk it through with a professional and then tell your family and friends you are getting help and you would like their support.

Sometimes family and friends are so used to seeing your strong exterior, your fight, your smile and get up and go that they can’t see how much you really are struggling deep down.

You can do this.
Support is out there.
Don’t be fobbed off.
Your family need you.

 

 

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Seaforde Gardens & Tropical House

Recently I took a little trip to Seaforde Gardens and tropical house with the kids and my brother!
If you haven’t been before you are really missing out! It is a simply wonderful little place with lots to do, see and explore!
We headed here on a Saturday and I would advise if you are going to head up for opening time, rather than later on in the day. When we arrived it was very quiet, so quiet in-fact that we had a brief moment of thinking it may not be open yet but it was! Though when we were leaving the car-park was full and it was really filling up inside the Tropical house.

When we first arrived we headed straight for the Tropical house to see the butterflies, terrapins, parrots, and a variety of reptiles! As soon as we walked in there was a kaleidoscope of butterflies swooping around and they also had a lovely bunch of flowers by the door so that you could watch some of them eating too! As you walked around they had little tables with sugar-water in bowls on them, and Amellia really loved watching the butterflies drinking using their proboscis. After watching the butterflies for a while we then headed into the next room which had some little terrapins and parrots in, Amellia and her uncle found it rather amusing to watch one of the terrapins try to climb out of the water and then it was on wards to the reptile room which had a snake, some cockroaches, giant snails and a few other reptiles!

We then headed out to the gardens and the maze. The gardens are simply beautiful and are filled with lots of beautiful flowers, and many peacocks happily walking about in them too. We had lots of fun exploring the gardens, smelling all the flowers and we spent a rather long time lost in the maze! It is a lovely little maze, not too big that you get really lost or annoyed at where you are, but big enough to be enjoyable and a little confusing so that you have to think about what you are doing!

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After that we went to the little play park which had a few swings slide, monkey bars, wendy house and some grass to run about on. It was a lovely little park and both of the kids really enjoyed playing here and after a play we all needed our bellies refilled so we popped to the cafe.
Next time I go here I will be sure to pack a picnic. The cafe was ok, but its menu was very limited of; ham, cheese or tomato toasties, pancakes, and some cakes. The drink selection was also minimal and didn’t have the usual things on it. Everything was home-made and the pancakes were tasty, but the toasties were pretty disappointing. They filled a spot though and we will be more prepared next time and take a lovely little picnic to enjoy at one of their many picnic benches .

We then headed back into the tropical house again before heading home. This time it was pretty busy inside, but we were lucky enough for a butterfly to land on my hand and I then placed it onto Amellias hand too, She loved looking closely at the butterfly and seeing all its different colours! We then sat on a bench and she found a caterpillar so wanted to hold it and put it back to safety after inspecting it in much detail too.
It was then home time after a lovely day as it was starting to rain and was getting very busy.

It was a simply lovely day and Amellia really enjoyed getting to spend time with her uncle! We can’t wait to head back again next summer!

For a list of other places to visit in NI click here!

-WeeOhana

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Newcastle Adventures #2

As I stepped off the plane I was greeted by a sunny, warm and welcoming day! The flight had gone really well, landed smoothly and I couldn’t wait to see my best friend! I jollied through the airport and was greeted with a giant hug!
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Thankfully she had already got me my metro ticket to get back to hers, as the que to get one was massive and as we got to the station there was a metro waiting! Perfect timing! We sat on the back carriage facing out the window, it was lovely! It wasn’t far on the metro to get to the stop by her house, and we enjoyed just chatting and deciding what we would do while I was over!
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As it came to our stop, we got up and the metro was just about to stop when a fellow behind us started making some funny noises, personally I thought he was a drunk man just mumbling to himself and didn’t want to look round to cause more issues, thankfully though my friend did!
Just as she looked back he started to fit! Luckily for him she is a nurse and knew what to do to help him! As she laid him down on the floor with his hoody under his head myself and another young girl looked for a button to press to make sure the train didn’t move on,  we found it, the train driver came down the train and then decided to go to the next stop! All the while this young fellow was having a fit on the floor. While this was all taking place I chatted to a lady who was sitting close to him and she said that he had jumped on the train with several bottles of alcohol with the security tags on them, they then all started to roll about the train when it moved, so we collected it all up so to ensure that it didn’t hit his head!

At the next stop a few of his ‘friends’ got on who knew him and said that he was epileptic, and after asking them if they knew any contact numbers for his family or siblings they said no then jumped off the metro with all the alcohol when the driver finally stopped at the next stop and didn’t move again as he had realized what was happening. They did then come back.. but they were obviously a lot more concerned about the alcohol!
As my friend did everything that she knew that would help the lad a doctor came down the metro and asked her if she was ok and I explained that she was a nurse, so he called for an ambulance and explained what was happening and all these medical terms, I stood there being pretty useless not sure what to do or how to help! My friend though, she was being amazing! Keeping as calm as possible, talking to the young fellow and timing his fits. When the ambulance crew arrived she explained how long the fits had been, what she had done! They then tried to take his blood pressure, etc but he wasn’t very happy so they had to sedate him and even after that he went off the metro kicking and screaming not quite sure what was happening to him.
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It was a very scary experience as all I wanted to do was help, but I hadn’t a clue what to do; thankfully my friend went into work mode and did the best she could to look after him and make sure that he was in the best position, his pulse etc was ok too.
That day I grew even prouder of my friend, I got to see her in action and potentially safe a life.
Adrenaline was high, nerves were high and thoughts were going a millions miles a minute! The ambulance crew had arrived though and were dealing with him, so it was time to get the metro back to her house and sit down for thirty minutes after the whole ordeal before heading out to explore!

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-WeeOhana x

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From Them, Through 10, To You

I recently took a trip to Newcastle to visit my lovely friend who now lives over their and to see a band that got me through a lot of tough times when I was younger and still to this day, listen too! When they announced that they were doing a reunion tour to celebrate their album From Us, Through Them, To You being ten years old.. I knew I had to go! They didn’t have a Belfast gig on their list though so I was pretty disheartened until my buddy suggested I came over their to see them and spend some days with her! Perfect! I was super excited to be getting to spend a few days away from reality, seeing my best chum and going to see Madina Lake live again, when I thought I wouldn’t ever get to see them again!

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On release day of the tickets I grabbed my buddy and me some and booked my flights! The countdown was on! Then they released that they were doing V.I.P upgrades .. I had to check it out and was sure I would be scrapping about to find money, as I just had to get to meet these guys.. no matter how awkward I was going to be (Oh boy was I!) when I saw that it was only £15 I jumped on it and texted my friend to say that I had bought us V.I.P upgrades! They said it included an exclusive acoustic set, photos, and early access to the gig.. unfortunately they didn’t do an acoustic set, which I was pretty disappointed about as I was really looking forward to that, but I still got to meet them, get a signed poster and have a chat.. an awkward chat at that! lol

When they released their support acts I headed on to Spotify to have a listen and I was not disappointed, I fell in love with them!

Anyway.. on to the gig! We had to email on the morning to See Tickets as they hadn’t sent out the tickets for the V.I.P part or an email to tell us any details but it was quickly sorted on live chat when they told us to be there for 4:45 and we would be going in at 5. We got there at 4:30 and sat down on the front step to wait along with a few others who were there!
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We sat there.. until 5:20 and I decided it best to go and check with the lady at the desk what was going on, and she told us that the V.I.P didn’t start until 6! It was too late to go for a wander or go and find food at that stage so we just sat on the steps and chatted while we waited! We were then all asked if we were V.I.P and to line up at the door.. the security guy got a bit of a panic when he asked for our V.I.P tickets and we all told him that we weren’t sent them .. so he searched about and got a list out and checked us all off and in we headed! I’m a pretty nervous, shy and anxiety ridden person.. so when we first went in I just stood awkwardly about with my buddy not sure what was going on or what to expect and then out they came onto the stage.. They asked everyone if they wanted to come over to the barrier as we were all stood back.. so at least everyone was in the same boat as us! We went over and they did two songs, neither which were acoustic like we were told.. but hey ho! I was very impressed with the sound! With it being such a small venue I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I was blown away! Sounded great! After that they then called us all forward one by one to have our picture taken with them, So I gave them all a quick hug before standing in the middle of them and feeling extremely awkward and trying to keep my cool!

They then came around for a chat with everyone.. my friend and I stood back and looked overly awkward for a while, but then Nathan came over for a chat.. and as I always do my nervous energy came out and I was like a little overly excitable puppy! I’m sure he probably thought I was an idiot but it made him giggle when I was saying about how he must be getting fed up of people touching him etc! So, it was all cool! Then they had to go, more hugs and then they went before the gates got opened. We grabbed a drink and a quick pee before going back to the front row to wait to see the bands! We were stood in the left corner as being a bass player myself I always really enjoy watching other bassists play!

The first band on to play was That Lying Bitch! After listening to them on Spotify I knew they were going to be a bit of fun and full of energy and they sure were! There drummer was jumping about, up and down from his drums he was having so much fun it was great! They were a great start to the gig and got everyone singing along and jumping about with their catchy and quick to pick up on fun lyrics! One of my favorites from listening to them on Spotify was ‘Totally fucked for you’ and when they played it I couldn’t help but laugh and sing along! Just such great energy and a band I would go and see if they came over here!

Next on stage was Lacey! I had also hit them up on Spotify to see what I should expect.. I instantly was a big fan! I had listened to them that whole night after discovering them and then had listened to them in my car too! There sound, lyrics, everything I instantly fell in love with, my favorite song I had heard was ‘Find A Way’ but unfortunately they didn’t play that.. fortunately for me I knew all the rest and loved every second of their set! I was in for even more of a surprise when I found out that there lead singer was also the bassist.. just incredible! I was more than impressed and I am going to be keeping an eye and my fingers crossed that they head over here for a gig! If not I may have to hope they go to Newcastle again and I can see them when I am visiting my friend! On the way out we bumped into the lead singer/bassist, So I complimented him told him I had really enjoyed and was very impressed etc and he complimented my accent (I think its horrid!) They seem like lovely guys as well which always adds to how much you enjoy a band I think!

Then it was time for Madina Lake to come on! I reverted back to feeling like a teenage girl! The Auspice started playing and on they came and everyone went a little crazy! They were just wonderful and it really brought me back to when I saw them before! So full of energy, and they made sure everyone was having great fun in the crowd! They sounded great, and now I am just desperate to see them again and wish I had gone to a few of their gigs on this tour if I could have escaped reality for a little longer! I Think they will always be one of my go to bands when I’m wondering what to listen to or when I’m feeling a little low, there lyrics are just incredible. Really connect with a lot of their songs! I’m sure there bassist Matthew thought I was a little mad.. we were stood right in-front of him and most of the gig I spent bouncing about or watching his hands while he played.. I’m not sure if that’s the done thing, but being a bassist I always enjoy watching other bassists play! So Matthew, if you thought I was odd.. your right I am, sorry! 😛 I did particularly like your marches across the stage every so often with high knees though! I can’t wait to see if more is going to come from these guys, if another album is coming out, another tour.. or what! Though if that is them done now, then that’s cool, Settle down with their families and what not I would be happy with that as the last time seeing them.. But, if they do come back.. I will be more than ready to join them!

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(Image quality has been lowered.. thanks WordPress.. So if anyone wants a copy of these images in their proper quality give me a shout!)
-WeeOhana

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Deliveries! =D

This week we got a few super cool deliveries!
One of them was a super amazing soft play mat that I had won in an auction on Facebook! If your interested in buying some soft play for in your house or business etc. I would really recommended checking out one of their auctions here!! They do them pretty regularly and there is always a bargain to be had!
When I saw this mat there was no way I was going to let it slip through my fingers!
It is the perfect size to fit in the little play corner we have in our room, blue and pink so means both my pair are happy and some wonderful stars stitched on to add a little magic! It is about the thickness of a gym mat, so wonderful for when the kids are throwing themselves about and works wonderfully as a head protector whenever Dylan decides to Do this.
Another winning feature on it for me was that it folds in half easily with a little grab handle, perfect for when we are having people over, or want a little floor space for train track building etc! Also very simple to clean, a quick baby wipe and it looks perfect again after any spills! I was more than impressed however with how quick I received this, I won the auction on Thursday, paid after dinner on Friday, it was posted on Monday and at my door on Tuesday morning! Wonderful quality, lovely customer service and super speedy delivery, I will be ordering some more shortly!
Here is a little video of Dylan enjoying dancing on the new mat to his favourite toy, BeatBo

 

The next delivery was one that took a little longer than I hopped, but boy was I pleased when it arrived! My sister sent me a link with what was the most perfect t-shirt I have ever seen. I then proceeded to look on the website and discover more and more amazing designs.. Luckily I had to be pretty controlled as the postage cost goes on weight of parcel and you can only have a certain amount in one parcel.. so I ordered us all one each of these t-shirts, but got a little disheartened when they didn’t do them small enough for little Dylan.. this didn’t discourage me though! I proceeded to place my order.. and discover that they did hoodies too! I mean .. check out this t-shirt!  (which I now have as a hoodie too)
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You can check out what they do here! They have three different designs each day that are at a cheaper price than the rest, but the others are also really reasonably priced and with some super awesome designs you wouldn’t find elsewhere!

 

-WeeOhana
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