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My Sunday Photo – 01.10.17

I love going off for a little explore with my little ones!
Recently we discovered this very quiet and beautiful little spot that is less than five minutes from our house!

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You wouldn’t think this was just off a dual carriage way would you?
Simply beautiful and my little girl really enjoyed getting up close to the wind turbines and pretending to be one!
We also did a spot of blackberry picking too!

How has your week been?
-WeeOhana

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Sibling Love.

My daughter always makes me proud, and I try to ensure that she is very aware of how proud she makes me. Especially when it comes to her brother.
Yes, like many brother and sisters they fight, dislike each other at times and want the same toy as what the other is playing with.
Though having a brother like Dylan is a lot more challenging than just the usual arguments and misunderstanding that happen between siblings.
It means that Amellia has had to learn a whole new way to play, interact and socialize with him among with many other things.

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She is currently waiting for him to say her name and asks on a regular basis do we think he will ever say her name. This is always a hard questions to answer because as much as we hope he will gain speech soon we cannot guarantee or promise this.
She longs to play duplo with him, kick a football about and get up to mischief together like you would expect from having a sibling around.
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She has adapted how she plays with Dylan, and if she really wants to get his attention she knows how to do this;will wave her hand in front of his face, or show him a train close by and this generally works. He also loves being spun in his chair that she has so she will often spin him in this and it is great when you can hear them both giggling away together. Its times I treasure and they really melt my heart. You learn to really treasure these moments as they are far and few between, so when they do happen they are just magical.
Sometimes though it just makes him angry and lash out. Unfortunately but also thankfully she is getting better at dodging his aggressive swings for her when she does something he doesn’t like, or want to do. She is starting to learn the signs for when he wants to play or for when he just needs left alone.

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Amellia really keeps me thinking positivly about all that is going on in our little family, yes sometimes things are really tough for her and we ensure that she gets time out to be a typical 5-year-old without having to worry about leaving if Dylan dislikes a place or whatever we have chosen to do that day but her understanding when Dylan gets overwhelmed by a place is absolutely magnificent. She will often say to me if it just me taking them to the park that she is ok with leaving if Dylan doesn’t like it when we get there.
I also really admire how proud of her brother she is, when we are out and she is talking to someone she will openly say about her brother having autism and people are generally shocked by how open she is and never quite know what to reply. She will then go on to tell them about Autism and how it affects her brother and that sometimes he will get mad, but he isn’t doing it to be mean, he just can’t understand you and doesn’t know how to tell you what he thinks.

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Yesterday she came home from school and nearly had me in tears.
She came up to me and told me that we don’t need to send Dylan to the school that we have seen for him because she is going to open a school just for children with autism. She is going to make it with a soft play room, sensory room, colouring and a room especially for Dylan with Thomas the Tank engine all over it.
Then she went on to tell us about how she will let them play most of the day so that they don’t get upset and she will try to teach them but if they get upset she will have an Ipad there for them to use to help to calm him down and they can then play letter games on it to help them to learn.

My heart melted.. My little girl amazes me everyday. She is so understanding, caring, loving and wants to just help in every way that she can.
When we explained to her that he will be a little to old when she has done she said that’s ok then mummy, because I can help other children like Dylan and he can come in and help me ❤img_4646

Dylan is so lucky to have a sister like her, and she helps him so much and wouldn’t ever be without him.
She tells me often that when I get older and I can’t look after Dylan anymore she will live with him so that she can keep him safe and make sure that he has the best life he can. She doesn’t want to get married or have any children so that she can always be there for Dylan when he needs her.

Simply put; I think he is the luckiest little brother and she is the most understanding big sister around.

-WeeOhana

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The impossible wish.

I wish I could spend a week, or even a day being you.
I want to know how this world seems to you

What makes you smile
What makes you cry
How all these noises sound to you
Why you don’t like eating ham
And why you love mince so much
Why playing with letters is one of your favourite things
But putting them together to make words seems.. well I guess scary to you?
I wish for this so I can really understand you
So I can understand why you dislike so much that brings others joy
And how things Bring you joy that I don’t understand why
I want to bring you all the joy possible
But how am I meant to when I have no clue what it’s like being you
Or what is going on in your little world.

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Quiet Week!

Sorry for being rather quiet this week, but it has been crazy in my house with the whole back to school, being out of the house early and all that other jazz that goes along with being a parent in September!

Amellia hasn’t been so keen on school this year and had a few tears in the morning, but then when I pick her up she tells me that she has had a good day and chats away to her friends as we walk back to the car!
I think it’s just the whole beginning of school nerves again, and just getting used to the routine that is throwing her off a little! Hopefully in a few weeks time she will be skipping off into school again and really enjoying it all!

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On Friday I went out for a bite to eat with my sister in Sugar Cane, and the food was lovely! We both had some calamari to start and the new pizzas for our main. They were fantastic, though a little hard to cut up!
We then headed over to Indie Fude for a little evening all about chocolate! It was a lush little evening and I don’t think I have ever ate so much chocolate in one sitting in my life! It was all simply incredible! Fantastic evening and I will be sure to keep an eye to see what other evenings they are doing to pop along too!
Was a friendly, happy, welcoming and relaxed atmosphere with some lovely people!
Can’t wait to head back again and interact with some adults!

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Hope your little ones are finding back to school exciting and fun! =]

-WeeOhana

 

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Capsicana Sauces!

Recently I got the opportunity to try some of the new sauces that are now available in Sainsbury’s! I couldn’t wait for them to arrive and start cooking up some meals with new flavours for us to try!

IMG_9540When they arrived, I was really impressed by their lovely packaging I know they say don’t judge a book by its cover and the such.. but these sauces even looked yummy!

The first one I had to try was the Mexican Chilli & Honey, I decided to do it with cut up chicken breasts and some noodles. Very simple sauce, no faffing about with adding water, or needing heated in the microwave, just over the cooked chicken and then serve it up!

WhatsApp Image 2017-09-02 at 9.09.02 PMIt tasted absolutely wonderful! Adrian and myself could not believe how delicious it was! The next night when Adrian got in from work he asked me what sauce we were going to try tonight as he couldn’t wait to get stuck in!

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One of our favourite quick, tasty and comfort meals are mince fajitas. I thought why not add a little twist and try the Cuban Chilli & Lime as the sauce for with them instead of the usual!
It added such a difference to the fajitas and they were just simply wonderful! 

Adrian then had the other two for when he was working and told me that I have to buy more of these sauces as he just loves them!
On my next trip to Sainsburys I will be sure to add some more of these to my shopping basket and I suggest you do too!
Tasty, different, easy, quick and beautifully packaged!

Capsicana Latin American Sauce! =] 

-WeeOhana

*I was sent these products free of charge to do a review, all thoughts, feelings and opinions are my own. *

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Think about you.

Trying to keep on top of your own mental health is really vital in life.
I feel that it is really essential to try to keep a check on yourself whenever you have a child with additional needs.
It does completely take over on all of your thinking, planning, time and very quickly you can get very worn down.

You need to stop, breath and think about you.
How are you feeling?
– If you aren’t sure, talk to someone. A friend, partner, someone who understands. If you regularly feel low, that you can’t take much more contact your GP for a chat.

When is the last time you did something for you?
– Have you managed to have some time to yourself or with other adults to actually relax?
I don’t mean just tidying when the kids have gone to bed, having a coffee, I mean something properly for you. Make sure to visit your friends, get out of the house and go for a walk, go to the shops and only look at things for you, do something that you enjoy and try to make it a regular thing!

Are you just holding on, or are you standing up tall? 
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Standing up tall? Fantastic! Though if you are just holding on, feel like you are at the edge, stretched too your limit, at the edge. Seek help. With kids with additional needs you never know what is around the corner and you don’t want it to be the thing to tip you over.
Your child/ren need you. More so than others, if you won’t fight to get them what they need, who will? GPs are very understanding and supportive. Don’t make an appointment for a few weeks down the line, take the emergency appointment and get seen that day. You need it.

Yes, you may have been here before and got back on your feet, and forgotten it for a while, but it will come back when you least expect it.
Please don’t feel embarrassed, scared, afraid, just make that phone call.
Your family and friends may tell you that it will all be ok and that you are ok, but you have to feel it too, and I’m sure if you are in this position you do not feel it.
Them shrugging off what you tell them, ignoring it, or just replying with the generic “you will be ok.” That is not enough.
Go to the doctor, talk it through with a professional and then tell your family and friends you are getting help and you would like their support.

Sometimes family and friends are so used to seeing your strong exterior, your fight, your smile and get up and go that they can’t see how much you really are struggling deep down.

You can do this.
Support is out there.
Don’t be fobbed off.
Your family need you.