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DIS – Week 5

Unfortunately after the week break for Halloween Dylan wasn’t as cooperative at his 5th DIS as he had grown to be in the previous ones.
He went in great, but he found it very difficult moving from the sand table which is what he always does first. After a little fussing and lashing out he then moved on to the next task which was puzzles and a shape shorter which is something that he really enjoys doing. He completed them all and after a gentle reminder to put them in the done box he did this successfully after every one he completed. He enjoyed doing the tasks at this table so much he tried to get the ones out from underneath for the next child. It was then time for the water tray.

IMG_0564.jpgAfter a very enjoyable time playing in the water tray it was then time to move onto the next table. This time thankfully he moved over great and took the object with him to match with the other object,he sat down nicely as he knew that he got to play in the lentils here and he really enjoys that. First of all she got him to do some letter matching and was very surprised that he could do this, though I had told her from the first one that numbers and letters were his up most favourite thing and he really enjoys. He then got very distressed when having to move on from matching letters but we managed to get him settled again by playing with a balloon and he then completed all the tasks at this table.

IMG_0687.jpgIt was then over to the carpet to play with the trains before heading home. I then chatted with the lovely lady while he was playing for a short while, we both agreed that the weeks have gone so fast and she said that she agrees with everything that they have said during the CDC clinics. She said we will discuss things further next week and hopes to have her report written up by then which would be great.

Lets hope the last ones goes smoothly and the speech therapist gets a chance to pop along and see how much he has improved with once a week so that she will then hopefully see him more often.

What is DIS?
DIS- Week 1
DIS- Week 2
DIS- Week 3
DIS- Week 4
– WeeOhana

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Think about you.

Trying to keep on top of your own mental health is really vital in life.
I feel that it is really essential to try to keep a check on yourself whenever you have a child with additional needs.
It does completely take over on all of your thinking, planning, time and very quickly you can get very worn down.

You need to stop, breath and think about you.
How are you feeling?
– If you aren’t sure, talk to someone. A friend, partner, someone who understands. If you regularly feel low, that you can’t take much more contact your GP for a chat.

When is the last time you did something for you?
– Have you managed to have some time to yourself or with other adults to actually relax?
I don’t mean just tidying when the kids have gone to bed, having a coffee, I mean something properly for you. Make sure to visit your friends, get out of the house and go for a walk, go to the shops and only look at things for you, do something that you enjoy and try to make it a regular thing!

Are you just holding on, or are you standing up tall? 
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Standing up tall? Fantastic! Though if you are just holding on, feel like you are at the edge, stretched too your limit, at the edge. Seek help. With kids with additional needs you never know what is around the corner and you don’t want it to be the thing to tip you over.
Your child/ren need you. More so than others, if you won’t fight to get them what they need, who will? GPs are very understanding and supportive. Don’t make an appointment for a few weeks down the line, take the emergency appointment and get seen that day. You need it.

Yes, you may have been here before and got back on your feet, and forgotten it for a while, but it will come back when you least expect it.
Please don’t feel embarrassed, scared, afraid, just make that phone call.
Your family and friends may tell you that it will all be ok and that you are ok, but you have to feel it too, and I’m sure if you are in this position you do not feel it.
Them shrugging off what you tell them, ignoring it, or just replying with the generic “you will be ok.” That is not enough.
Go to the doctor, talk it through with a professional and then tell your family and friends you are getting help and you would like their support.

Sometimes family and friends are so used to seeing your strong exterior, your fight, your smile and get up and go that they can’t see how much you really are struggling deep down.

You can do this.
Support is out there.
Don’t be fobbed off.
Your family need you.