The past few nights we have had a few Halloween rhymers at out door, I suppose living in a housing development it is expected but it has made me think how bizarre this whole Halloween thing is! We constantly tell our children, don’t talk to strangers, don’t take sweets from strangers and the likes. On Halloween we change these rules, how confusing must this be for little ones! Not only do we tell them to take sweets, we tell them to knock the door of strangers houses and ask for sweets & if they don’t give them any I suppose they are meant to do a trick on them! I haven’t ever been trick or treating, as my mum didn’t like it, so I suppose this may be why I don’t understand it! I am in two minds if I want to let me three year old do it, mainly because she is only starting to understand that strangers could be danger! She has only just started to be weary of who picks her up and who talks to her, which I am delighted by and have been trying to get her to understand for a while now! Will sending her out on Halloween with her daddy to other peoples houses really help her in the learning curve that she has only just started and took so long to get her to start it? I don’t want her to go backwards in this learning curve, because before she really would have just taken the hand of any stranger who gave her a smile and a hello! Add in someone giving her sweets and I can picture her just running into there house and making herself right at home! Maybe next year she will have learnt completely about this, and then will be bale to go trick or treating and resume back to normal the next day? I just think it is hard for a three year old to process that this is only for one day.. she will be running out of the house trying to knock on doors for sweets for the rest of the month If I let her.. but am I a killjoy if I stop her? what compromises is there?
Hubby has said just n the street and to the people we know.. which to her is about two houses in which she knows who lives in them, yes she does know some of the other people, hubby knows them all.. but to her they are still strangers?
Am I just being an over protective mother?
So; is it really ideal to set her back in her learning just so she can get some free sweets? Or should we just have a ‘spooky’ themed day, go out and buy some pumpkins, sparklers, toffee apples, sweets and some ‘scary’ movies then camp in the living room do all the fun things like dunking for apples and so forth! Go shopping for all the ‘treats’ dressed up too? I’ll let you know tomorrow what the outcome is and what the hubby wants..
What do you guys do?
Have a safe and happy Halloween whatever you do!
Everyone knows things change when you have a baby, I don’t think anyone realises quite as much until it actually happens!
I myself was pretty young when I had my first little one so had only just got into the partying and making real friendships! The party thing obviously had to stop as soon as I found out I was pregnant.. Though I didn’t expect it to stop all together after I had the baby too! (How silly was I!) I thought hey I’ll be able to go out when the baby is sleeping, or when she can be minded, I didn’t realise I wouldn’t want to party and would want to be home with my baby even when she was sleeping! I can’t remember the last time I went out and partied and let my hair down! Though I wouldn’t have it any other way as she has made me who I am today, shucks I would rather spend a night cwtched up in bed with her watching all the Disney movies then be out anyway! At the moment though I can’t really party.. As being pregnant and sore kinda puts a bit of a downer on the situation and no comfier a place than sprawled out in bed! It does sometimes though get me down because I didn’t get to experience it all and do all the crazy things I wanted, though I always feel super guilty when I think about that! How can I put my life before hers, right?
On the real friendship front.. Who wants a friend who can’t go out and party, go on girly holidays, go shopping constantly, not really the best of fun with a child huh! So I can see why many of the so called friends I had back then disappeared from my life pretty promptly after they realised having a baby completely changed me, my life and my availability of going out! I do sometimes wish that more of them had made the effort to make plans before the actual night or would even come and chill out while she slept and we could have watched a movie or just gossiped! I unfortunately quite often do get rather lonely and down about the whole friend front, mind you I do have a couple of friends and of course my family who I couldn’t be without! Though feeling you don’t have someone you can just call and go out with or just chill with is a bit of a bummer!
After having my little girl it has made me notice just how much your family do do for you and how much they are their for you, I couldn’t have done half the things I have done without them! My mum is a giant part of my day to day life, if I have a concern or anything at all I can contact her and I am so greatful that she lives so close to me and puts up with me so much! I have a strong dislike to going out by myself, I’m not sure if I was so bad before having my little one. Now though if I go out with myself I’m always panicking that people are looking or saying something about me. People always say don’t let what others think bother you,but it bothers me. I always try to convince myself it doesn’t and will take the little one out by myself when hubby is at work, when I do I end up nearly running into the shopping grabbing what I want and running back out, incase little one throws a wobbler and I don’t know what to do.. And because I just get so panicked! So my mum generally comes out with me and I feel great when out with someone else no panicking or anything!
Babies/children change your life in many other ways too for example, money, views, etc! Though I’ll leave that for another night and pop to bed now 🙂
Nighty night fellow bloggers x