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Mums & Tots!

When I was at my CDC appointment with my little man they recommended a mums and tots group that was just for children who attended the unit as they know how hard it can be to go to other mums and tots with lots of children/noise etc! So I thought I would give it a bash!

When I would go to other mums & tots he couldn’t handle the noise, amount of people, amount of toys.. everything was just a giant sensory over load so he would go into a meltdown. This would consist of him screaming/crying/throwing himself to the floor/hitting his head off the floor/running at walls/scratching at himself.. people would stare, which made me feel extremely anxious, upset, judged and many other things. The leaders of the mums & tots would come over and sing/give him toys/try to help.. but obviously that just made it worse. Obviously they are trying to help and didn’t know what else to try/do.. so I ended up leaving and taking him to the car to settle him down, I would say to myself that maybe he would like a different mums & tots, that I would try others. Believe me, I tried several different mums & tots, I think I went to all of the ones in my area, but in the end I gave up. The longest I managed to stay at one with him was 15 minutes. When we first went in, he hated it, So I gave him my phone and sat him on my knee for him to watch Morph and accept what was going on around him and hopefully join in. A lady beside me made a comment about how he should be off playing with the other children and enjoying himself like a normal child rather than sitting playing on my phone. I didn’t even bother to reply.. I picked him up and left. I made a group decision for him and me, that we wouldn’t go back to a mums & tots for a long time.

Until when I was at my CDC appointment and they told me about the mums & tots I thought it sounded fantastic, it still took me a few weeks to go to it, to get over my anxiety of the looks/ what ifs and so forth! When I went, I couldn’t understand why I had put it off!

Its a fantastic mums & tots ran by a wonderful group. When we first went in, he wasn’t too happy.. so the lovely ladies there got out the bubble machine and then went away from him. He sat on my knee for while watching the bubbles, then he got up and started popping the bubbles then ran off and saw all the other wonderful things they had. The ladies then got me stuff to fill in while chatted to me about what they did and what was going on with my handsome man.
There was only 5 other children there, in a big hall with all the toys spaced out and a wonderful sensory room. It was fantastic, he pottered about by himself happy as larry without a care in the world. It was wonderful to see, and I chatted to a few of the mums, some of them in a very similar situations to me, it was great to speak to others who are going through the same sort of thing, who know what its like to still be feeding your two year old 10+ month food.

We now go every week and when we pull up outside the hall his little face lights up and he starts flapping in the wonderfully excited way that he does! Its great, to get out of the house and for us both to enjoy ourself and relax.

Is there anywhere that your children especially enjoy? Places they really don’t like?

WeeOhana xx

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Shredded Paper!

Who knew something so simple could bring such joy!
I got a parcel in the post.. which obviously bought me joy, but then after taking out of it what I had ordered I had a great idea.. kind of!
We have been told to try and get our little man to do a lot of messy play/feeling different things.. anything sensory related to try and encourage him to eat better, which personally I thought was an odd suggestion until they told me that your hands and the feelings you accept on your hands is very similar to the way it feels when in your mouth! So we are hoping that if we encourage him to feel as much possible it will help with his eating! It isn’t as simple as it sounds.. as he refuses to touch anything that looks different generally! So when I opened my parcel I took out my things and noticed that the shredded paper felt a bit different, so I thought lets just see what the wee man makes of it!
He loved it! He was throwing it everywhere and by the end of it he was letting me put it on his legs without a fuss and passing it to me for me to do it again for him!
He was laughing, coming to me to engage in play, feeling something different, and trying to make eye contact! It was just fabulous. . and very simple to brush up after!
I really encourage you to use anything and everything for them to play with! Something that you think won’t be fun, or is just going to go in the bin, let your little one have a look at it! (if its safe for them obviously!) You never know what they will enjoy and learn from!

This shredded paper ended up in a fantastic learning experience for him with lots of fun too!img_2175WeeOhana xx

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Simple Must Try Fun!

With my little girl just starting preschool we have been trying to find ways to keep her busy but aren’t that strenuous as she is coming out of preschool exhausted and grumpy! She is really enjoying herself which is such a great thing and I’m starting to get used to the afternoon classes rather than the usual ones! This week is her first week of being in everyday! The hubby came home from work and was greeted by an exhausted me (my little man has lost his great sleeping ='[) and a hyper, yet grumpy girl as she was knackered! Until he announced that he had a fantastic idea! I sighed.. expecting it to be something utterly ridiculous, loud and messy… to my surprise it was not!
He looked at me and said “i just need some string and a hanger?” I was a bit suspicious.. what could you do with a bit of string and a hanger? This did not sound like fun.. it sounded like a big old let down! My oh my was I wrong!
I watched as he tied a bit of string from our door handle to the fire place, then ran upstairs and appeared with a hanger and my little girls favorite teddy/puppet who has fittingly been called “Monkey” .. I’m sure you can guess, he is monkey! She was bouncing about the place asking me what it was for and she was getting very excited… and I just was just very confused by it .. he then announced it was a Zip-line! I still couldn’t see how.. until he showed us!

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As you can see by the look on her face.. this was one of the best things she had ever seen! She thought this was so fantastic! Such a simple idea and she had hours of fun! Everyday since she has had the zip-line!

So all you need is a length of string and two places to hang it.. the higher the better and a kids trouser hanger!
Little miss got a bit concerned that it would hurt her lovely toys, so we got them to “hold” on with there hands!
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This is how monkey and how he held on! =]

Such a simple thing, yet entertained my little ones for ages and the dog! She thought it was great trying to catch a moving target.. Little miss didn’t appreciate this too much though so Lilo got a pigs ear and was happy as Larry to let the Zip lining continue! =] Little Miss loved it so much she even had to facetime nanny so that she could see the fun monkey was having!

Do you guys have any simple things that your little ones love?
If you try this let me know what your little ones think! =D

WeeOhana x

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Technology

“What shall we do tonight?” This seems to be a magical question my hubby asks me every night when the little one is in bed … My general reply is that I don’t mind… Mainly because there isn’t really too much we can do while sitting in the house that is overly entertaining! Generally it ends up with him playing the ps3 or us playing on some form of technology! He asks me like he expects me to answer with the most exciting idea, like ride a unicorn or something magical! We then end up passing the I don’t kind, you choose, what do you want to do type of conversation. Sometimes I find myself thinking on how I wish how we could just go for a walk, an ice cream, a meal, cinema, anything that can be spontaneously done. Unfortunately we as mums and dads know that really isn’t possible! I mean who can just leave a 2 year old up in bed while they head out for the night!

Technology is such a huge thing, I don’t think many people would know what to do without it anymore! It’s fantastic in some ways because yes the t.v lets everyone hear the news about places all over the world, let’s us contact our friends and family in times of need or just when we fancy a catch up! I can text my friend for example and within five minutes I will generally have a reply. Without technology that wouldn’t happen, unless of course we were face to face, which would probably happen more often than it does nowadays! In emergency situations or for organising things to do its great, but is also find people use it a lot more for gossip and general chat. I have started trying to when someone is to start a conversation with me via text is invite them over for coffee so that we can really chat and see each other, but generally people are too busy, working, or want to make plans for weeks in advanced! (Which at the moment with my baby brain are generally forgotten well before they actually happen!)

Technology is great in aiding children in learning, for example with watching videos or children doing these new apps. My little one has never had any interest in doing real puzzles and as soon as you help her to build one she is walking over it destroying it.. Pretending to be a dinosaur! I downloaded a puzzle app on my ipad for kids to just see how she took to it, she loves it and asks to play it on a daily basis! I say no and try to get her to do real puzzles, but she tells me they aren’t as fun. I try making all the noises that the app does and talking to her and asking her about the picture but yet still she isn’t satisfied! Give her my ipad and away she goes doing the puzzles on this app that I never thought she would have any interest in doing and will sit there for ages doing to them! Yes it is fantastic that she is now doing puzzles and ever so slightly starting to try to do real ones it makes me feel a little flawed as a mother! She would rated sit and use my ipad for them and not have to interact with me, then have me dancing about like an idiot, making all the noises and being fully Involved with her learning! On the plus side she is learning I suppose and I think technology is something that we all just have to accept nowadays as the norm and that it is the way forward! Obviously though I like to limit how long she uses it for, what for and so forth! Wouldn’t be too chuffed if she just sat and played game with no educational thing in them!

As I’m typing this I can see my hubby throwing his arm up and will more than likely complain soon about how the other team playing against him in his game “didn’t deserve that” or something along those lines! I always find it so funny when he gets angry at his games! He gets so worked up then like most people I suppose.. Complains that the game has been made harder etc! As long as he doesn’t launch the controller at the huge t.v we have then it’s all fun & game πŸ˜€

I think as mums we have to really embrace technology and try to keep up to date with the new things and what is what! On things that can help them educationally obviously and not just what game is next to be released and what everyone is playing! πŸ˜› I dread to think how much technology there will be in the world when my little one is grown up or in school, but I’m going to be a mum to embrace this and accept change! πŸ™‚
What do you think about technology? Lover or a hater?

Time to go and tell my little rascal to get back to bed!
Over and out; WeeOhana x

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Changes!

Everyone knows things change when you have a baby, I don’t think anyone realises quite as much until it actually happens!

I myself was pretty young when I had my first little one so had only just got into the partying and making real friendships! The party thing obviously had to stop as soon as I found out I was pregnant.. Though I didn’t expect it to stop all together after I had the baby too! (How silly was I!) I thought hey I’ll be able to go out when the baby is sleeping, or when she can be minded, I didn’t realise I wouldn’t want to party and would want to be home with my baby even when she was sleeping! I can’t remember the last time I went out and partied and let my hair down! Though I wouldn’t have it any other way as she has made me who I am today, shucks I would rather spend a night cwtched up in bed with her watching all the Disney movies then be out anyway! At the moment though I can’t really party.. As being pregnant and sore kinda puts a bit of a downer on the situation and no comfier a place than sprawled out in bed! It does sometimes though get me down because I didn’t get to experience it all and do all the crazy things I wanted, though I always feel super guilty when I think about that! How can I put my life before hers, right?

On the real friendship front.. Who wants a friend who can’t go out and party, go on girly holidays, go shopping constantly, not really the best of fun with a child huh! So I can see why many of the so called friends I had back then disappeared from my life pretty promptly after they realised having a baby completely changed me, my life and my availability of going out! I do sometimes wish that more of them had made the effort to make plans before the actual night or would even come and chill out while she slept and we could have watched a movie or just gossiped! I unfortunately quite often do get rather lonely and down about the whole friend front, mind you I do have a couple of friends and of course my family who I couldn’t be without! Though feeling you don’t have someone you can just call and go out with or just chill with is a bit of a bummer!

After having my little girl it has made me notice just how much your family do do for you and how much they are their for you, I couldn’t have done half the things I have done without them! My mum is a giant part of my day to day life, if I have a concern or anything at all I can contact her and I am so greatful that she lives so close to me and puts up with me so much! I have a strong dislike to going out by myself, I’m not sure if I was so bad before having my little one. Now though if I go out with myself I’m always panicking that people are looking or saying something about me. People always say don’t let what others think bother you,but it bothers me. I always try to convince myself it doesn’t and will take the little one out by myself when hubby is at work, when I do I end up nearly running into the shopping grabbing what I want and running back out, incase little one throws a wobbler and I don’t know what to do.. And because I just get so panicked! So my mum generally comes out with me and I feel great when out with someone else no panicking or anything!

Babies/children change your life in many other ways too for example, money, views, etc! Though I’ll leave that for another night and pop to bed now πŸ™‚

Nighty night fellow bloggers x