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Child Developmental Clinic

It was my little mans CDC appointment the other day, and I really did not know what to expect from it. I had asked several people who had been to them before and everyone gave me different answers, so I’m going to tell you about my experience and how it all went!

The whole day before I had so much nervous energy I ended up sorting out my whole kitchen, cupboards and the lot!  hadn’t expected to get much sleep that night but I must have worn myself out running about like a lunatic cleaning/sorting/worrying etc as I actually managed a pretty decent sleep! Which was a great start as it gave me the energy I needed to be able to listen and concentrate on what was being said.

We were called from the waiting room and met a lovely lady who explained to us what was going to happen during the 90 minute appointment and that there was six other people there to observe him .. so seven people to watch my little 23 month old boy, that seems like an awful lot right! Well it seemed like even more when you walked into the room and saw them all staring at you..all happy, smiling and welcoming faces just very over whelming! My little man wasn’t sure at all what to think, but they are all very used to that and they had everything under there belt, the winning one for him was bubbles! He loves bubbles, what child doesn’t! They then all introduced themselves one by one; physio therapist, speech therapist, Occupational therapist and so forth! The questions then came as he was being observed by all the people there and as one by one they all went over to him and tried to get him to do whatever it was they wanted.. from walking up stairs to making eye contact.

There was so many questions asked I can hardly remember any of them or how I even answered, my partner told me he was impressed with how well I handled them all and answered them all… So I’m thinking they weren’t really the easiest of questions and that is why I have forgotten the majority of them, mixed in with my anxiety I’m surprised how I even remembered to breath through it all let alone answer all these questions thrown at me!

They then went around the room and gave there feedback to us about there findings; one thing that I was worried about was the muscles in his legs being a little short as he is constantly on his toes and not only just a little bit he goes fully up on his toes and occasionally will even walk on the other side of his toes! His muscles are fine though and we were advised to get him some heavy boots to try and encourage him to walk flat footed otherwise he will end up shortening the muscles in his legs. I am now on a hunt for some cute little boots in a lovely size 5! =]

The speech therapist told me to work on his eye contact and that we would have a few appointments with her shortly to help and give me more ideas on how to get him to give eye contact. Then the others mainly spoke about how to try and help him in the world around him, doing lots of messy play to try and encourage him to get used to different textures and how everything in the world around him is. To try tight clothing when I take him out to see if this helps him to feel settled as its like getting a big hug and close contact. I got lots of ideas of things to do with him to try and help him get used to different textures etc so that he will then hopefully start to eat a lot more things! Did you know that your hands are very closely linked to your mouth, so hopefully when he accepts different feelings on his hands he may start to in his mouth too!

It then came back round to the lady who was asking all the questions and listening to what everyone said; she looked at us very seriously and said that it was Autism.
Even though I had expected this my heart sank.. I just needed to get out of the room. Away from all the eyes watching and all the ears listening and waiting for my reply.
She then went on to tell us that she couldn’t refer us to the Autism Clinic until he was two and a half years old, so that we would have to come back in six months for this and that when we were back we would also discuss where would be best for him to go to school and to apply for schools too then as it was important to get on there lists from the start to make sure he got a place.

I asked a few more questions about how long till certain appointments etc.. then quickly left after thanking them all.

Even though I expected this outcome, it was still a huge shock. I am still coming to terms with it and I’m sure I will be for a very long time. I’m really not sure how to feel about it all.. all I know is that our life has changed forever.

I love him & I always will, no matter what.

WeeOhana xx

 

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The Start of a Long Journey

I’m not really sure what to write, or how to phrase what I write really, I just know that I need to write it somewhere as a place to get it out and as a sort of journal for what all is about to begin. Currently we are just starting a long journey with our handsome son to see what is going on with him. Our first step is Monday when he is getting seen by the audiologist.

I’ve had my worries about him for a while, but it took me  until a few months to convince myself that I wasn’t just being silly and there was something going on. I then decided to book a doctors appointment and went armed with a list of my worries and concerns about what was going on with him. I felt like a crazy mum going in with a list, but the doctor there knows me well, was very welcoming and told me he was glad I had a list so that I didn’t forget anything. So after him checking over my little monkeys ears/throat etc we discussed what I was worried about, he decided that we needed to get the health visitor over to see him asap and to get the ball rolling to sort things out with him. One thing he said that really got to me was that “he will either progress from here, or start to go backwards.”

After speaking to my doctor I was hoping to have a weight lifted off my shoulders and him telling me that I was just being silly, not to rush him and so forth but as you can tell, thats not how it went. I came home and got on the phone to the health visitor to get her to come and sort us out. I had to wait a week until she was available to come over, and I’m sure a lot of you reading this are parents and you know how long a week feels when you are in panic and upset about your child.. little did I know the waiting time of a week was the shortest I would endure in this process.

When she arrived she asked me what my worries and concerns were and we got to have a good chat as he was having a little nap. My worries were.. I suppose still are!

  • He doesn’t respond to his name, no matter how loud you shout it. Though hears things like doors creaking etc. At the start I was worried he was deaf, until I realized it was more a selective hearing thing. (this is getting checked on Monday though as they have to clear his hearing before checking everything else)
  • He is 21 months and doesn’t say a word, he babbles a bit, but no words or sounds that mean anything to him. He used to say dada/dog etc and knew what they meant.. now they have disappeared.
  • He tiptoe walks, a lot. Like right up nearly as high as he can get.
  • Extremely fussy with the foods he eats.. Doesn’t really like lumps or bumps in his food.
  • Doesn’t brings toys over to show me/his dad or his sister
  • Isn’t keen on his sister sitting beside him, when she does he will try to bite her/pull her hair.
  • Very little eye contact, or response to emotions from others.
  • Head banging against a wall/floor (very upsetting to experience =()

As I told her these she asked me had I been on google and were these all big worries or just little things.. when I told her that I used to work with children with additional needs she started to listen a little more, and then when he woke up and demonstrated to her several of these things she then said that I was right to have a list written. She then plowed on to serious mode.. She told me that she hoped she would come here and see him and tell me that she would come back and see him in a few more months and that he would grow out of the things he did. Unfortunately she told me this wasn’t the case and she wanted to write down reports etc and get them sent off that night to get him on the list to be seen by the child developmental team as soon as possible. . This was at the start of July.

I have had a lot of time to take it all in, think things over and over again, worry, get upset, get annoyed and most emotions possible really. This is a real tough thing to be going through and to be left in the dark with when the ball will start rolling. I have his audio on Monday so at least that is something but I am yet to have an appointment from the child developmental team. I am going to ask them when I am in on Monday if they have a clue about time frame.. I think the not knowing when it is all going to start is the hardest.. Especially when I know that when the ball has started rolling it wont be straight forward and that it will be a long time after many appointments to know what is going on.

As his mum, I just want to make it all ok everything be fine and one day for him to wake and to have came on leaps and bounds. Be talking and everything.. but as the days and weeks go past, I know that wont be anytime soon. It hurts a lot, but I have to keep my brave face on, keep smiling and positive for my family.

One thing I have found through all this though is that you constantly seem to be on the look out for things that are different/worrying/wrong etc.. So I have tried to concentrate on the positive and enjoy what makes him, him. The way when he laughs, its from deep within him, he has the most wonderful and infections laugh and when you have discovered what makes him laugh you can do it 1000 times over and he will find it just as funny as he did the first time! How when you hand him something new he will inspect it in great detail, turning it over and over again in his hands looking at all the tiny little details on it. That he empties out the whole box of hot wheels to find the one with the red roof and then will grab any other one to have one in each hand.. then will go to the table and play with them for ages without anything distracting.. unless his sister goes near him! 😛  That he will pick the tiny bits off the carpet and place them in my hand and will do this until he thinks they have all gone! When he climbs up beside his sister and for the brief moment will sit beside her and how excited and happy she gets by this, and how at the park he will find a bridge, and go back and forth across this bridge the whole time we spend there chuckling away to himself. He does a whole load more that makes me so proud and privileged to have him as my wonderful son. I love him, and I always will, no matter what the outcome is.

WeeOhana. xx

 

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Blackberry Jam!

I made this with my little girl, we had so much fun and it was super simple!

Ingredients

  • Blackberries
  • Sugar (same amount as blackberries!)
  • Lemon Juice to taste

Method

  1. We first of all started off with going blackberry picking to get our most important ingredient! My little girl had so much fun doing this, we walked along and she picked the ones she could reach and pointed out too me the ones up high for me to pick! Obviously taste testing some as we went along! 😛
  2. Next we measured out how many blackberries we had, washed them under some warm water and then put them into a bowl! (we didn’t have a large amount)IMAG1719.jpg
  3. Then we mashed the blackberries up with our potato masher! This was lots of fun and a bit messy when she decided to see how fast she could do it..IMAG1722.jpg
  4. The sugar then is to be added, for us this was 1 and a half cups as we had one and a half cups of blackberries! Then mix it all together. Now is when you can add the lemon juice to taste if you want! We added a tiny little splash.IMAG1724.jpg
  5. Then pour the mixture into a saucepan, bring it to the boil while continuously mixing it! Once it has reached the boil, reduce the temperature down and stir it for a few more minutes.IMAG1725.jpg
  6. Finally find some old jam jars preferably to put it into! We didn’t have any so we used some bowls with lids that we had in the house, so anything can do really! Pop it into the fridge for a few hours to cool down. IMAG1729
  7. Find some nice bread and enjoy! .. Again we didn’t have any nice bread in the house and she was an eager beaver to try something that she had made! So we put it onto a bit of toast and really enjoyed it!
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I hope you enjoy making this and that you find it as yummy as we did! If you do, let me know! =D
WeeOhana!

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Simple Chocolate Fudge!

I saw a video of someone making this fudge online and could not believe how simple it was! I was sure it wasn’t going to taste as great as it did but it was super fantastic so had to share it with you all!

Ingredients

  • 1 tin of condensed Milk
  • 400 grams of chocolate
  • baking tray to put it in (mine was 9″x9″)
  • baking paper

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Seriously that is all the ingredients you need!

Method!

  1. Line your baking tray with baking paper
  2. Put all of the ingredients in a bowl wpid-imag6497.jpg
  3. Mix them all up and put it in the microwave on high for 1 minuite .. if the chocolate doesn’t seem melted enough put it in for another 30 seconds. I have a 800watt microwave and went for 1min30 and it was  perfect!                       wpid-imag6501.jpg
  4. Pour into the baking tray lined with baking paper and put it in the fridge for 4-5 hours .. the longer the better!
  5. Take it out and lift the fudge block out of the baking tray using the baking paper, then place on a plate upside down and peal off the baking paper (slow and steady then comes off all in one go!)
  6. Cut it up into squares with a sharpish knife and enjoy! wpid-imag6518.jpg

It is simply delicious and so super easy to do! Great for parties, playdates .. anything!

Let me know if you try it and what you think!

WeeOhana x

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A Miracle! – The Rabbit who wants to fall asleep!

Recently there has been a lot of people ranting and raving about how fantastic the book “The rabbit who wants to fall asleep” is! Being the person I am I thought that it would never work.. but seeing more and more reviews and people going crazy for it, I thought I had to give it a shot!

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If you haven’t heard of this book, it is written by the Swedish psychologist Carl-Johan Forssen Ehrlin. She promises to have a child nodding off in no time, with a perfect combination of sentence structure and hypnotic words. Now my child is a very energetic one, and she did use to sleep really well, but as of recent it has taken a long time to get her to go to sleep, especially in her own bed! We tried the usual of star charts, getting to go places if she went to sleep first time and slept in her own bed.. everything! Nothing seemed to be working.. Until now!

The way the book works is that is gives suggestions to your child without your child really realizing that it is time to sleep, and to relax. It is important that you look at this book yourself first before you read it to your child as at the front it explains to you what all the different text styles mean in book. for example, if it is italics you read the words slowly and in a calm voice. It really helps to familiarize yourself with the book first before trying to read it right off the bat! There is also an audiobook of it which you can listen to with your child, or as I did, I listened to it first to see how it was intended to be read!

Here is the link to the audio of it on youtube! You could also play this to your child!

When I first got the book I was a bit thrown back by how long it was, 10 pages with small writing on them! My initial reaction was that.. she is never going to stay still long enough for me to finish this and i going to be up there for ages trying to get her to stay still and to listen to the whole book.. but I didn’t let this out me off! I went on with and thought that I would give it a chance!
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Night 1 – She didn’t want to lay down, I got quizzed about every character, she didn’t like the wizard and she didn’t like the name of the snail. Though as I continued to read the story to her I could see that it was making her tired, and she didn’t like this! She was shaking her head, holding her eyes open and the such, fighting lovely sleep! Why would you do that! I left her room after reading it to her and she was asleep very quickly and didn’t come down stairs at all.. normally it would be at least three times! I was then convinced that she was on to what this book was wanting and would not be letting me read it to her again!

Night 2 – When she was doing her night time routine of going to the toilet and brushing her teeth she asked me would I read her the sleepy book again and would I call the rabbit something different and not do the wizard bit with the magic dust as it got in her eyes, so I did this. She didn’t ask as many questions about the book and lay down the whole time! She asked me to sit on the floor so that she could put her ffeet of the duvet and rolled over and was actually listening to the story without 1001 questions and was so close to sleeping! Though again she didn’t come down once and I’m assuming she was asleep very quickly! This gave me a bit more hope about the book, as it was obviously helping her get to sleep!

Night 3(tonight) – She wasn’t as convinced that she wanted the same story again (I don’t blame her!) but I told her that I would change the names to whatever she wanted again and then she was excited for it again! She lay in her bed and I sat on the floor from the start so that she would be able to get comfy! At the start she was asking me questions and could I change the story etc.. So I tried to a bit!(oops sorry!) Though it was just missing out certain bits that I knew got her asking questions etc .. she curled up to how she normally falls asleep before the first page had finished and then stopped asking questions, was shuffling about so I carried on reading.. by some miracle she was asleep by page four! I was amazed.. I came skipping downstairs to my husband to let him know how quickly she had fallen asleep, without any questions or being told to lay day several times! She just did it all by herself! This book really works!

Now for my review and honest thoughts on it all;
It is absolutely fantastic that this book made her go to sleep while I was reading it, even if it wasn’t the first night, it clearly helped her relax greatly! I am still amazed that a book could help her fall asleep and that she didn’t get bored by it, or tell me that she wanted something else! I can see how it works because the amount of times that the word sleep/relax is incorporated into the story! I’m hoping to read it to her one more night and then be able to read her other stories and she will fall asleep to any one as she knows that she can then relax and listen to the story rather than asking 101 questions about why someone is saying what, or doing what etc! I wouldn’t want to be reading her this book every night mainly because at the moment there is only one and she will quickly bore of it, though they do plan to make more!  Also because I rather enjoy letting her chose a book at bed time! I do think I will incorporate this book into our life though! If she has had a long day, is going to have a long day the next day, or has something stressful (first day of preschool) etc coming up I will read it to her then!
So; if you have a child who is difficult at bed time, i really urge that you try out this book! You will not know what has happened! Give it a few days though and don’t expect it to work straight away! You must try it though!  :]

If you do end up trying it let me know how you get on with it!
I hope you are as amazed as me!
WeeOhana

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Food Revolution Day!

I know.. Food Revolution Day was the fifteenth of May, but it sure does need a good old look into!

I heard the fantastic song the other day when browsing through YouTube for a song to listen too and I came across the song that Ed Sheeran wrote for Food Revolution Day! If you haven’t heard it yet you should really listen to it and you can find it here!

The first thing that really struck me was what Jamie Oliver said (Sorry Rapped :P) in the first verse

Half the world is starving with too little to eat
And the other half die from being obese

This is so true.. and incredibly disgusting! Did you know that 42 million children under the age of five are either overweight or obese! How horible is that, the only people to blame for that is there parents! It made me feel sick when I read that statement! How could someone be so uncaring and blinded that they don’t see what they doing to there kids! It’s easy to see when your child is getting obese/overweight, and you are the ones who choose what you feed them! If you use the excuse that oh, but s/he wont eat the fruit/veg and prefers all the processed food… I’m sorry but a bit of tough love is going to go a long way! Would you rather your child has a harder life because they then go on to develop heart problems and the such and then dying early because you didn’t want to have your child crying at you because you wouldn’t give them that extra chocolate bar!

We need to teach our children how to cook, get them involved with the cooking in the kitchen and they will then enjoy the food more and will be learning life skills for whenever they are older! Rather than living off convenience food! There is a huge range of healthy dinners that can be cooked in the same time as convenience food, it just means you have to do something rather than just turning on the oven! Use it as a family bonding time and all cook together! Children today, are the first generation predicted to live shorter lives than there parents, how horrifying is that! We should be moving forward, not backwards!

The Food Revolution Day this year, is fighting to put compulsory practical food education on the school curriculum! I think this is a great thing! It will help children to start to learn about where there food comes from, whats in it, what is best for them and there children when they are older and how to cook lovely, healthy and tasty food!  We need to give our children and possibly our grandchildren the best life we can and providing them with these skills is desperately needed for our children to lead, happy, healthier and longer lifes!

Like Jamie Oliver says and i completely agree with;

This is every child’s human right!

From Jamie Oliver to Everyone;

If you can help me get millions of people to sign this petition, we can create a movement powerful enough to force all G20 governments to take action. Food education will make a difference to the lives of the next generations, so please help. I can’t do it without you.

So please; Sign the petition here then share it with your friends!
Lets kick obesity in the ass and give our children a better chance at life!

WeeOhana xx

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Toucan Box craft

Bit of a different blog for you guys today. Though I had to blog about this box as it was just downright fantastic.

As I was pondering on what to do with my three year old when she got home and the hubby had gone out to wet the babies head, I got a wonderful delievery from the postman. I had seen an advert on my facebook for a little box called a Toucan box; Basically it is a little box which has all the materials and instrutions in it to make a craft item. You can choose from a couple of options on there website of how often you want them, how many craft ideas and extra supplies for more children, I think the extra supplies thing is fab idea and I will be doing this whenever my little man is old enough to join in! When you have signed up for a box you then get to select what things your child enjoys so it gives the boxes a lovely little personal touch as you know they will enjoy all the crafts you receive.

So whenever she got home and the hubby had gone to enjoy himself, I told my litle girl that the post man had brought her a special parcel. She found this exceptionally exciting, seeing as she very rarely recieves post! Though I know that I find it exciting still as an adult to get unexpected parcels in the post,I was also pretty excited to see what these little boxes contained.

I was very excited whenever we opened it and found this;

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All the wonderful things we would need to have a jellyfish race in our own house! Not only is it super cool to have a jellyfish race in your own house but my little girl adores the seaside! Her nanny and bampy live right by the seaside so she very much adores the seaside and anything to do with it! I was super impressed with how all of the craft bits incuded in this box were of very high standered. The ribbion is super thick and really impressed me! All the colours on the peices included in the box are very vibarent which obviously to my three year old and other little ones makes it even more appealing! I was pleasently surprised to find that the bits that were the body of the jelly fish, were of a sturdy cardboard and were already pre cut. They also already had holes along the bottom of them to make the jellyfish legs! I thought that I would have to create these holes myself and cut out his body, so it was super that it was all ready and all I had to do was simply trim the ribbion and the straw. With an impatint and excitable toddler, this was a mega bonus. So i quickly trimmed all of these things down so that we could get started on creting these racing jellyfish.

So, we got started.
I showed her the instructions and they were so beautifuy dispayed that she could even understand them! Every stage was illistrated so well that you hardly need to even read the instuctions that are written below the pictures.

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As you can see; this craft really held her attention! I think it is because she could follow the instructions and all of the bits were ready waiting for her to just put them where she was meant to! She needed help with a few parts of this craft but with only being three I expected this and got the Toucan box so that it would give me ideas of what to do with her and hopefully help me think of new crafts to do with her.

Inside the box also comes a litle postcard idea with activities on the back for you to do with your children while you wait for your next box! :] On the front of the instructions it also gives you a messiness rating, a grown up assistnce level and also little facts about what you have just made. So for example with the box I got which included the kit to make the jellyfish came facts about the jellyfish to share with my three year old! Another great addition to the box is a “What we are learning” card. So for exaple this one is Science, Art & Design. It also gives you ideas of what to talk about to your child while doing the activity to help increase the knowledge they gain.

Here is our finshed product; I didnt want to give to much away as I really advise you try out one of these boxes!

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They deliver to all of the UK at 98p for a petite box, which is what I got for my first box and £2.95 for a standard box. If you live outside of the UK they have an email address on the there website to contact the and to see how much it is. here is a link that will enable you to get your first box for free to try it out and if you really don’t like it well then its very simple to cancel.
Trust me though, you should give it a go and I hope you are as pleasantly surprised a how fab it is as I was!

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Oh and another thing to add about these super cool boxes is that they come with little stickers/tokens and whenever you have enough you can then choose a prize. You can see which prizes they have on there website for you to choose from!

WeeOhana xx