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Normal? I think not!

I read something really odd on a Facebook group today. A lady was asking the group that because she is a stay at home mum her fellow thinks that when he comes home from work he gets to watch whatever he wants, chill on the sofa ignoring the children and what they want to watch and relax. She then makes dinner while he watch’s what he wants then she spends the evening watching his programs. She wanted to know if this was normal behaviour! What do you think? What happens in your house?

I personally think this is absolutely ludicrous! Firstly my little girl would not let my hubby come in and just chill on the sofa without jumping on him, quizzing him about his day and everything he did then filling him in with what she has done when he was at work. Then if he was to turn off the program they were watching, I’m sure there would be a fight! My reaction would also not be very pleasant! He has been at work all day, and yes I know that he works very hard etc and I’m not belittling that at all, but his kids want to see him. He should also want to see them too and share his experiences of the day and enjoy hearing what they have done!

Also I feel that a lot of stay at home parents really do not get enough credit! It is hard work, very hard work, it is enjoyable but tough. So why should one get to come in and just relax and forget about everything when the other has been at home with the children all day! Least the working one gets out of the house and some time away!

As for the who gets to pick what they watch at night.. in my house we are generally pretty good at deciding together. We generally have a series that we are watching together so will watch a few episodes or if we fancy a movie we will pick together! Obviously sometimes there are things that my hubby really wants to watch so I let him watch and vice versa but generally its a mutual decision with what goes on the T.V!
Why should one of us get priority?
We are both equal, not one better than the other.

WeeOhana xx

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Even though I am in a great deal of pain, and my bump is somewhat massive and still growing, I just don’t seem to feel pregnant! I am finding it really strange mainly because of how this pregnancy has gone, hasn’t been smooth sailing at all like my first and has been constantly reminding me that I am pregnant. I mean, I know I’m going to have a baby, it just doesn’t feel real! its confusing to explain.. I’m sure your probably all reading this thinking, what is she going on about! I suppose the easiest way to explain it, is I know I’m having a baby, but it doesn’t feel like the baby will be here in less than two months!

Today to try and help myself realise that a baby will be in this house shortly, I built & made the cot up! Luckily my lovely mum came round to help me, because with my SPD I really couldn’t have managed to do it by myself while trying to contain a three year old too! It is very upsetting and makes me feel very weak and pathetic that I can’t do these simple tasks! I also think that is another reason why I don’t feel like the baby will be here soon, or at least am in denial about the baby being here so soon because I can’t do things to prepare the house and all that fun jazz! I must say though my mum and my family have been such a fantastic help through all this! I really do appreciate all they do for me! At the moment I am relying on my mum a great deal because my hubby works shifts, which sucks in these kind of situations. well actually it sucks full stop, but I can’t complain because when he is here, he is fantastic its just the trying to get him here and awake! My mum though really is my best friend, she is just so wonderful! She has been taking me wherever I need to/fancy going, taking my little one to and from play school and plenty of other things. I think without her help at the moment I would end up just staying in bed all day watching DVDS with my little girl eating rubbish all the time! Though now that I think of doing that, it actually sounds like a good plan! =D My sister and my dad have also been great, as they have taken my little one out on adventures and stopped her from being trapped inside. Taking her out also helps to waste her energy.. she is very energetic for a little one… she would run circles all day constantly while talking if you let her!

Anyway, I got distracted sorry! So we built the cot and got the bedding put on to it, it is such a cute little themem and I am even happier with it now it is on the cot! I loved it when we bought it.. obviously, or I wouldn’t have bought it, but now that it is on and all set up, it is so beautiful! Here is a little picture so that you guys can admire it too!

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isn’t the turtle just wonderful! I have the matching changing mat, towel, and all that kind of jazz that you need for a bay! 😛  Now I am just on the count down till the wardrobes and the rest arrive! Not long now, they are being delivered on Tuesday! Then I can get the mountain of clothes sorted and his room will start to look like a room, rather than a dumping ground for clothes and the likes!

I didn’t think my bump could get any bigger.. but every morning when I wake up it seems to be getting bigger and my clothes are getting smaller! I’m sure one of these days my tummy is literally going to explode! This morning actually my little girl said the most cutest thing ever, she cuddled into my bump and said “you are going to be the best baby brother, I can’t wait to change your nappy. I love you” How precious ❤ Though if she is interested in changing the nappies, she may work away.. I must admit that isn’t the bit I am most excited for!

Here is my 33+2 bump! I feel huge! =[ what do you think?

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This post has been very random and a bit, different? to my others.
So I hope you still enjoy this! Let me know what you think?

WeeOhana xx

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Halloween..?

The past few nights we have had a few Halloween rhymers at out door, I suppose living in a housing development it is expected but it has made me think how bizarre this whole Halloween thing is! We constantly tell our children, don’t talk to strangers, don’t take sweets from strangers and the likes. On Halloween we change these rules, how confusing must this be for little ones! Not only do we tell them to take sweets, we tell them to knock the door of strangers houses and ask for sweets & if they don’t give them any I suppose they are meant to do a trick on them! I haven’t ever been trick or treating, as my mum didn’t like it, so I suppose this may be why I don’t understand it!  I am in two minds if I want to let me three year old do it, mainly because she is only starting to understand that strangers could be danger! She has only just started to be weary of who picks her up and who talks to her, which I am delighted by and have been trying to get her to understand for a while now! Will sending her out on Halloween with her daddy to other peoples houses really help her in the learning curve that she has only just started and took so long to get her to start it? I don’t want her to go backwards in this learning curve, because before she really would have just taken the hand of any stranger who gave her a smile and a hello! Add in someone giving her sweets and I can picture her just running into there house and making herself right at home! Maybe next year she will have learnt completely about this, and then will be bale to go trick or treating and resume back to normal the next day? I just think it is hard for a three year old to process that this is only for one day.. she will be running out of the house trying to knock on doors for sweets for the rest of the month If I let her.. but am I a killjoy if I stop her? what compromises is there?

Hubby has said just n the street and to the people we know.. which to her is about two houses in which she knows who lives in them, yes she does know some of the other people, hubby knows them all.. but to her they are still strangers?

Am I just being an over protective mother?

So; is it really ideal to set her back in her learning just so she can get some free sweets? Or should we just have a ‘spooky’ themed day, go out and buy some pumpkins, sparklers,  toffee apples, sweets and some ‘scary’ movies then  camp in the living room do all the fun things like dunking for apples and so forth! Go shopping for all the ‘treats’ dressed up too? I’ll let you know tomorrow what the outcome is and what the hubby wants..
What do you guys do?

Have a safe and happy Halloween whatever you do!
WeeOhana x

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Technology

“What shall we do tonight?” This seems to be a magical question my hubby asks me every night when the little one is in bed … My general reply is that I don’t mind… Mainly because there isn’t really too much we can do while sitting in the house that is overly entertaining! Generally it ends up with him playing the ps3 or us playing on some form of technology! He asks me like he expects me to answer with the most exciting idea, like ride a unicorn or something magical! We then end up passing the I don’t kind, you choose, what do you want to do type of conversation. Sometimes I find myself thinking on how I wish how we could just go for a walk, an ice cream, a meal, cinema, anything that can be spontaneously done. Unfortunately we as mums and dads know that really isn’t possible! I mean who can just leave a 2 year old up in bed while they head out for the night!

Technology is such a huge thing, I don’t think many people would know what to do without it anymore! It’s fantastic in some ways because yes the t.v lets everyone hear the news about places all over the world, let’s us contact our friends and family in times of need or just when we fancy a catch up! I can text my friend for example and within five minutes I will generally have a reply. Without technology that wouldn’t happen, unless of course we were face to face, which would probably happen more often than it does nowadays! In emergency situations or for organising things to do its great, but is also find people use it a lot more for gossip and general chat. I have started trying to when someone is to start a conversation with me via text is invite them over for coffee so that we can really chat and see each other, but generally people are too busy, working, or want to make plans for weeks in advanced! (Which at the moment with my baby brain are generally forgotten well before they actually happen!)

Technology is great in aiding children in learning, for example with watching videos or children doing these new apps. My little one has never had any interest in doing real puzzles and as soon as you help her to build one she is walking over it destroying it.. Pretending to be a dinosaur! I downloaded a puzzle app on my ipad for kids to just see how she took to it, she loves it and asks to play it on a daily basis! I say no and try to get her to do real puzzles, but she tells me they aren’t as fun. I try making all the noises that the app does and talking to her and asking her about the picture but yet still she isn’t satisfied! Give her my ipad and away she goes doing the puzzles on this app that I never thought she would have any interest in doing and will sit there for ages doing to them! Yes it is fantastic that she is now doing puzzles and ever so slightly starting to try to do real ones it makes me feel a little flawed as a mother! She would rated sit and use my ipad for them and not have to interact with me, then have me dancing about like an idiot, making all the noises and being fully Involved with her learning! On the plus side she is learning I suppose and I think technology is something that we all just have to accept nowadays as the norm and that it is the way forward! Obviously though I like to limit how long she uses it for, what for and so forth! Wouldn’t be too chuffed if she just sat and played game with no educational thing in them!

As I’m typing this I can see my hubby throwing his arm up and will more than likely complain soon about how the other team playing against him in his game “didn’t deserve that” or something along those lines! I always find it so funny when he gets angry at his games! He gets so worked up then like most people I suppose.. Complains that the game has been made harder etc! As long as he doesn’t launch the controller at the huge t.v we have then it’s all fun & game 😀

I think as mums we have to really embrace technology and try to keep up to date with the new things and what is what! On things that can help them educationally obviously and not just what game is next to be released and what everyone is playing! 😛 I dread to think how much technology there will be in the world when my little one is grown up or in school, but I’m going to be a mum to embrace this and accept change! 🙂
What do you think about technology? Lover or a hater?

Time to go and tell my little rascal to get back to bed!
Over and out; WeeOhana x