Time just seems to vanish at the moment, since having my little man i seem to blink and a week disappears! It doesn’t seem like ten days since I last blogged.. more importantly it is nearly impossible for e to believe that he is 7 weeks old today… did I have a giant sleep through a few weeks after having him?!?
Some days it feels like he has been here forever, we have a lovely little routine (which generally works..) his big sister is completely in love with him and everything goes as smoothly as it can with a three year old and a 7 week old! I can’t wait for it to be the summer so that I can start taking hem both out for long walks and explorers as right now it is a little cold for him to b out and about for a long period of time..
Other days I don’t know how i cope. My three year old doesn’t listen or help and the little man just wants to be held constantly, which obviously just can’t always happen so easily whenever I am trying to entertain my little girl! These days I just want to scream, run and hide. I think that there is no way that I am going to get through the day.. but I manage! Mainly because of my fantastic hubby, who doesn’t always know how rough of a day it has been but will aways make me smile and give me a cuddle when he gets through the door from work! Then there is my mu, who I know no matter what that she is just a little phone call away and if i’m really struggling she will be with me as quickly as she can to help. Generally I just call and ask what is she up to and does she fancy coming round for a cuppa, because one thing I’m not to great at is asking for help or support. I feel that if i ask for this then I am admitting defeat and that I wouldn’t be able to do it all on my own. I like to think that no matter what happens I would be able to cope on my own and handle the kids, suppose most people like to know they can do it on there own, but I know I must work on opening up to people about how I feel and to ask for help when I need it rather than just hoping that they will see that I need it. Talking about emotions and how I feel about anything at all though isn’t a strong point at all for me
The main thing that gets me through the hard days, is remembering the good. Remembering how fantastic and well behaved my little three year old ca be when she wants to be. That I have a great support network full of family & friends;Also how lucky I am to have a beautiful loving family, a roof over our heads and full tummies.
Thank you guys ❤
So; Remember the good times, because hey, life would be too predictable if we didn't have the bad.
What do you guys do/think to get you through the hard times?
Everyone knows things change when you have a baby, I don’t think anyone realises quite as much until it actually happens!
I myself was pretty young when I had my first little one so had only just got into the partying and making real friendships! The party thing obviously had to stop as soon as I found out I was pregnant.. Though I didn’t expect it to stop all together after I had the baby too! (How silly was I!) I thought hey I’ll be able to go out when the baby is sleeping, or when she can be minded, I didn’t realise I wouldn’t want to party and would want to be home with my baby even when she was sleeping! I can’t remember the last time I went out and partied and let my hair down! Though I wouldn’t have it any other way as she has made me who I am today, shucks I would rather spend a night cwtched up in bed with her watching all the Disney movies then be out anyway! At the moment though I can’t really party.. As being pregnant and sore kinda puts a bit of a downer on the situation and no comfier a place than sprawled out in bed! It does sometimes though get me down because I didn’t get to experience it all and do all the crazy things I wanted, though I always feel super guilty when I think about that! How can I put my life before hers, right?
On the real friendship front.. Who wants a friend who can’t go out and party, go on girly holidays, go shopping constantly, not really the best of fun with a child huh! So I can see why many of the so called friends I had back then disappeared from my life pretty promptly after they realised having a baby completely changed me, my life and my availability of going out! I do sometimes wish that more of them had made the effort to make plans before the actual night or would even come and chill out while she slept and we could have watched a movie or just gossiped! I unfortunately quite often do get rather lonely and down about the whole friend front, mind you I do have a couple of friends and of course my family who I couldn’t be without! Though feeling you don’t have someone you can just call and go out with or just chill with is a bit of a bummer!
After having my little girl it has made me notice just how much your family do do for you and how much they are their for you, I couldn’t have done half the things I have done without them! My mum is a giant part of my day to day life, if I have a concern or anything at all I can contact her and I am so greatful that she lives so close to me and puts up with me so much! I have a strong dislike to going out by myself, I’m not sure if I was so bad before having my little one. Now though if I go out with myself I’m always panicking that people are looking or saying something about me. People always say don’t let what others think bother you,but it bothers me. I always try to convince myself it doesn’t and will take the little one out by myself when hubby is at work, when I do I end up nearly running into the shopping grabbing what I want and running back out, incase little one throws a wobbler and I don’t know what to do.. And because I just get so panicked! So my mum generally comes out with me and I feel great when out with someone else no panicking or anything!
Babies/children change your life in many other ways too for example, money, views, etc! Though I’ll leave that for another night and pop to bed now 🙂
Nighty night fellow bloggers x