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Beach Fun!

During this lovely weather, we have been getting out for lots of walks and enjoying ourselves. One of my favorite walks was when I took the kids to Crawfordsburn beach and we walked along to Helens bay and played in the sand and the sea!

While we were walking along towards the beach Amellia decided that she would like to push Dylan in his pram! Its was very hilly and it’s pretty hard to push a pram when you can’t see over the top of so I gave her a little hand. As she was pushing him along with  we had a little chat and she told me that she wanted to practice taking him for walks in his pram now so that she could take him out when she is a teen!
How cute does she look pushing the pram! ❤
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We then got to the beach and thankfully Dylans prams has nice big wheels so pushes wonderfully over the wet sand! The sea had just gone out so the sand was perfect and Dylan was happily napping in his pram. This meant that Amellia got to really enjoy the beach, play with the waves, make Rapunzel and hunt around in the seaweed without having to worry about leaving if he woke up in a bad mood.

We had such a wonderful time and it felt like some good old mummy daughter time too with Dylan fast asleep and Amellia having lots of fun, chasing her about the beach and helping her to build her Rapunzel!
It was a lovely day and will be a fond memory for us both!
Hope you are all enjoying your summer time, what have you been up too?!

-WeeOhana

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Treat Day!

We try to ensure that Amellia gets to go out at least once a month with one us to do whatever she wants. Sometimes she picks swimming, other times clothes shopping but something she always picks is to go out for dinner! She loves her food and unfortunately going out for dinner as a family is something that we don’t do very often at all as Dylan is not a good eater, and all the noises, bright lights, people and smells just send him into meltdown.
Before Dylan was even born this was something that we had decided we would make sure we did, I think its important for all children to get a chance to do whatever they want for a day, have all the attention on them and be made to feel as special and wonderful as they are!
It is even more important to us now with everything that we are going through with Dylan as I don’t want her to miss out on all the typical “kid” things that he wouldn’t particularly enjoy. I also don’t want her to grow up resenting her brother because she didn’t get to do things she wanted to because of him. We try our best to do things as a family but it is tough, and I don’t like taking her out and having to say her to her that if Dylan doesn’t like it we have to go. She is wonderful with him though because if I take them to the park and he starts to get  upset she will come over to me and say “ok mummy time to go!” As much as this is wonderful, it’s not fair on a five-year old.

On our day out she decided she wanted to start with lunch at Little Wing Pizzeria! What a wonderful little spot, I love it. I am simply a huge pizza fan and they make exceptionally delicious ones! When we sat down she was super excited to pick off the menu herself and then get to colouring it in! She chose the minestrone soup as she liked the sound of it coming in a cup! When it arrived it was super cute in a teeny tiny cup, and she dove right in. Unfortunately though she wasn’t a big fan of this soup but to make it an even better experience the girl serving us then got her dough sticks  instead which she quickly devoured! Not only was this fantastic customer service but when she brought her over the dough sticks she told Amellia that is was great to try new things and that she was a super girl for trying the soup!
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whilst we waited for our mains then we got a chance to colour in the menu, it was wonderful! They had little bits for you to draw what you thought certain things would eat and a picture for you to find other items in and colour them in, she had a lot of fun doing this and got really excited when she found the things we were looking for in the picture! She had lasagna for her main and she really loved it, she ate it all up and enjoyed it so much!


One of her favourite parts of the dinner was getting an ice cream and a little mini hot chocolate in another tiny little cup! Unfortunately I didn’t take any pictures of these but they were just adorable! She also loved the fact that she got to have coke with her lunch and thought it was super special that it was in a glass bottle and not a little plastic cup!
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She then wanted to do a spot of shopping, so we popped into a few of her favourite shops and picked up a few bits and pieces. We then headed home and told her daddy and brother all that we had been up to and how she can’t wait to go there again!

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Ohh, I forgot to also tell you how wonderfully delicious my dinner was from Little Wing too, one of my favourite things that they do is there spicy cheesy bread for starters! I then had one of their pizzas for main which was just super as always.. I can’t remember exactly what one it was..doh.. but I do remember that it was yummy! We will certainly be back soon, I can’t wait for my next day out with her.
She is simply wonderful and really does not get enough credit ❤

Do you try to take your kids out on their own if you have more than one?
What do they love to do?

WeeOhana xx

 

 

 

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Questions!

With it  being Autism Awareness month I decided to ask on a page on Facebook that has many bloggers on it if they had any questions about Autism. Here are the questions I was asked and my answer! =]

Sophie from mamamei.co.uk has a little brother who has Aspergers and asks
are people still struggling to get a quick enough diagnosis? “
We are currently going through the diagnosis process and it is a very long and infuriating thing. When Dylan got seen at the CDC clinic we got told that it is autism but we have to wait till he is 2 1/2 before he can even be referred across to the autism clinic and then he will be put on another waiting list before he is seen, which is a very long list. The annoying thing about this is that if they had referred him when we were first there he wouldn’t have been seen until he was over 2 1/2 anyway.  It will then be a push to try to get him into a nursery that will be able to deal with his level of needs without a diagnosis. I know a few other parents who are going through a similar thing and are having to wait for an unacceptable amount of time. One lady had her child referred to the autism clinic at 2 1/2 and he is 3 1/2 now and she still hasn’t had a letter to start the process. So; I’m not getting my hopes up for a speedy one myself.
It is very irritating because they say early intervention is key to helping, but they don’t seem so keen to provide much help until they are over a certain age etc!

Claire from Http://lifeloveanddirtydishes.com asked; What did you notice about your child that made you seek a diagnosis?
There was several things with Dylan that made me want to seek a diagnosis. One of the main things was that he was talking for a while well he said 2/3 words then about a month later he lost them and all the word sounds that he made. He tip toe walked and still does the majority of the time. He also has very poor eye contact and will not respond to his name no matter how loud you shout it! I had worries about him for a while before anyone else would accept that I was in-fact right to be worried and that he needed to be checked out by the health visitor. Even when he was a young baby I raised a few concerns with my HV, like he didn’t smile or giggle for a very long time. I also as a mum remember feeling very upset because we didn’t seem to have that automatic bond people talk about. When you were feeding him his bottle he wouldn’t look at you lovingly etc! There are lots of things about Dylan that increase my worrying about him that I spot as the times go on. Mainly though I am very eager to try to get him talking or communicating in some way so that he can let me know what is upsetting him, what he wants or what is going on in his head! This would then in turn hopefully lessen the amount of melt downs we have in a day-to-day occurrence as he could then communicate.

Vicki from Www.tippytupps.com wanted to know;  “if you have other children, how do you balance out their needs so neither feel left out?”
This is something that I am really conscious about as I have a little girl who is five years old. I am always worried about her missing out on things because of his dislike for many things. Though me and my husband work hard to ensure that she gets to do the majority of things that she wants to do and that she gets days out just by herself so that she doesn’t have to worry about having to leave if he gets upset and that she gets all the attention. We take turns once a month where we will take her out for a full day and do whatever she wants to do, be it swimming, shopping, eating, going for a walk or anything that she thinks of! During the month if there is something that she wants to do that only takes a few hours for example swimming and my husband is off work, he will take her swimming while I go for a walk with Dylan or do something that he enjoys!

If you have any questions you would like answered drop them in the comments below and I will surely answer them for you on this blog =]

If you enjoy my blog and reading about what we are going through with Dylan and would like to read some other blogs similar here are a few;

Danielle Duggins – “I  write about experiences mostly – https://someonesmum.co.uk/category/autism/”

Ann Hickman- “I blog about how our family experiences the world.. often a differently to others http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com”

Victoria Hatton- “I write about autism too, my daughter has Asperger’s and I’m an Autism specialist teacher. I write both from a teacher and a mummy perspective: Teacher: https://www.mummytimestwo.com/…/navigating-autism-from…/ Mummy: https://www.mummytimestwo.com/…/moment-knew-daughter…/”

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Time Apart!

I think whenever you have more than one child it is important to make sure they get to spend time with you separately and for things that fit there age or wants as well! Especially whenever one of the children in your family has a special need, as it really does effect everyone’s life in the family. I always find myself feeling guilty because whenever I take my pair out together it is aways known that if Dylan isn’t happy we will have to leave. As much as this isn’t fair on my little girl, it is what has to happen. She is very good and if Dylan isn’t happy whenever we get somewhere she knows that she gets five minuites then it is time to go. Unless I’m  having a day where I want to take on the world and can ignore the looks. I always feel incredibly guilty when we have to leave, especialy if we haven’t been there long.. i think it is hard as a mum as well to accept that your child doesn’t really enjoy what the majoirty of children love. A trip to the local park can be upsetting for both my children, as it could be too nosey/buzy etc for Dylan which then means we have to leave. It is also then upsetting for me as I then feel bad that my little girl has had to be disappointed etc! Though I am very good at keeping a strong front on infront of the kids!

My husband and myself decided that in the new year we would try and do things seperatly at least once a month with my little girl, as she loves things such as going out for dinner, going to the cinema or going shopping for some new clothes! These are some of the top things that my little boy really struggles with, but it isn’t fair for her not to experience these because of that! This month it was my turn, so I decided that I would actually bring her down to see my mum and dads new house in Dublin! Obviously this is something that I wish we could enjoy as a family, exploring a new city/parks/shops/restuarants/musuems but he really wouldn’t be able to cope at all, espeically with staying somewhere unfamiliar too! Hubby had the weekend off so me and my wonderful daughter headed off!

We have had a fantastic time! The drive down is approx two hours long, and she decided to chat the whole drive down. It was wonderful, we chatted about such a range of things, from why there was a tractor on the road to how come they hadn’t  invented time travel yet so that we could just appear at nanny annd grampys without having to sit still for so long! (Sitting still isn’t her strong point!) Once we got to my mum and dads it was bed time really, but not without a tour around the house and some food to fill her little belly!

The next day we all headed out for a walk around the park and to get some breakfast! It was a lot colder than we expected though so we really didn’t get too much of a walk done before everyone thought there hands were going to fall off! We then found a little market and got a crepe for breakfast and picked up some rather wonderful Macarons handmade by a little French woman, they were incredible! I am actually pretty annoyed I only bought one box of them and wish I had got another box to take home with me! They were just super scrummy! 


It was then home time to warm up and let grampy watch the rugby! We spent this time drawing lots of pictures, watching videos on the ipad and chatting to nanny about everything that crossed our minds! After the rugby was over and we were all bathed and ready we went out for some dinner! We went to a lovely little Chinese down the road, which served food nice and quick (perfect for kids!) it was also really tasty too so it was a winner! 

Today we got up and thought it didn’t look as cold as yesterday, so headed off to the beach for a walk.. wha a terrible idea! If you have me on instagram you will have seen how windy it was! If you haven’t you should add me, I would love a few new followers and people to follow! =] ;] (weeohana) << my instagram

After the beech we went to a park and for some lunch! We then popped to a nice little shop and picked up some dinner and Amellia loved looking at all the fish they had there for sale! 


It was then home time and Grampy had more rugby to watch! But not before playing a little!


We then headed to our room and snuggled on the bed while everyone else was busy. I really enjoyed the time just laying there together and relaxing, something me and her never get t0 do anymore! Tomorrow we are heading home and I really look forward to the conversations we have in the car on the way home! Also to get home and give Dylan a really big snuggle,and my hubby of course 😛 

Hope you all have had a wonderful weekend and have a good week! 

WeeOhana xx 

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Quality Time!

I have had a great morning today! My parents had my daughter over night and then took her out for a nice walk and some exploring too burn off that amazing amount of energy she has! For the first time I really felt like I had just me and my little man time! It was incredible.. I always feel guilty about the time I spend with him. It’s normally me juggling my attention between him and little miss, when he is sleeping she gets my full attention.. but he never gets that, because she never sleeps! Whenever he was younger I used to get to spend time with him while she was in bed and so forth, though he now goes to bed when she does! He also interacts a lot more with you now, whenever I was getting quality time with him before he could barley hold his head up and just wanted cuddled to sleep!

Now though he is so much more interactive.. he smiles, giggles(kind of), grabs for things and lets you know when you do something he doesn’t like. It’s fantastic.. and this morning just felt really special.. we chatted, cuddled, laughed and just let everything else pass us by!

It was just magical! :]

Weeohana x

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Crawfordsburn Country Park!

Recently I have decided that we as a family, will be going out more! As comical as that sounds, you sometimes get stuck in a rut of relaxing, seeing family and the such whenever you are all free. Though we need us time, time to spend doing fun things as a family, making memories, having fun and just enjoying being together! So every time the husband is off work, we are going to do something! Go for a walk, exploring, visiting fun sites! I am going to compile a list of things/places that I want to visit and each time he is off we are going to tick another one off! =] I will put the list up here whenever I have it sorted, and it may give you some ideas of what to do if you’re from Northern Ireland or if you come here on a visit!

The first place that we went to was Crawfordsburn Country Park. It is basically a lovely forest walk, and there is also a beach too, so its sort of like two things in one! If you explore deep enough into the forest you can find a waterfall. Where you park there is also a little visitors center, which on our visit had a great range of stuffed animals, information about sea pollution and little activities to do with the young ones! It was fab! They also had a lovely little cafe which we got some food in and it was rather delicious!

We didn’t get to explore deep enough to find the waterfall, but that is because we first of all went to a field in the park and she ran about like crazy there and then went to the beach! We went for a nice walk into the forest, but we couldn’t find the waterfall and by the time that we were on the right track (or at least we thought we were ;]) she was knackered.. and I was pretty hungry! My little man was also nearing his bottle time, so we headed to the visitors center & cafe. My little girl then got distracted by the activities and looking at the stuffed animals, there was also a badger den that you could crawl about inside! She was eager to do this, but not being very keen on the dark.. she asked daddy to go in with her.. which he did! It was comical to watch, but very adorable! He would do anything for her, and there special little bond is just wonderful! It always makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside watching them play together, run about, make up stories, cuddle and just be themselves with each other, its amazing! Something I was very worried my daughter wouldn’t get with a man, and now she has! :]

Dylan was in his carrier and loved looking about and seeing the world from a proper view! He was gurgling and smiling away, it was so nice that we could go to a country park, walk about the muddy path and the beach without worrying about navigating a pram! It felt great us all having fun, enjoying the fresh air, running about the beach without having to feel like one of us couldn’t be involved(well two really) because we had to stand with the pram!

After exploring the visitor center we then went and got a bite to eat, my little girl got a giant plate of chicken nuggets & chips, which I was surprised with how much she ate! Me & the hubby got fancy sandwiches.. which I must say were very delicious and some chips which were just yum! The little man… well obviously he enjoyed some milk!

So it was a fabulous day out all in all! Some lovely weather, tasty grub, exercise, fantastic company and bonding with my wonderful family! I do love them so much and they are just wonderful! I don’t tell them often enough! I really appreciate and enjoy days out! They mean a lot and bring wonderful happy memories with them!

Me & my wonderful pair! ❤

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Fambam ❤

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WeeOhana ❤