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Learning Curve to friendship <3

Amellia has been working really hard on building up her relationship with Dylan. She understands that he is a little different to others and that he doesn’t enjoy touching, close contact or really playing with her. Though I’m sure you can see how this is very difficult for a five year old to have to understand, and to follow through with. This is especially hard for her as she is basically the polar opposite of Dylan!

She wants to shower him with love and care. She wants to play with him 24/7, kiss and cuddle him and have in-depth conversations about what they are building with the Duplo blocks.. but she has slowly learnt that this isn’t going to get her very high up in Dylans popularity list. When he was building she used to go over and try and help and he would get frustrated at her and hit out, I always found this very hard to watch and explain to her over and over again. She wasn’t doing it out of badness, she just wanted to play and engage with her brother like she would other children. Whenever she then came anywhere near him he would hit out, try to bite her, scream etc at her.. and he still does now but not to anywhere near the same extent. They are both learning how each other work. She knows that if she goes and does something he can’t explain to her he is happy by himself so he will shout or do something else to show her, he has also learnt that not every time she walks past him or sits near that she is going to interrupt what he is doing.

I have seen huge progress between them recently, like all of a sudden they have clicked. They understand each other that little better and she understands why he is a little different and has accepted that she needs to treat him a little differently. Friday, was a huge moment for them. We came down in the morning when they had both awoken and Dylan was pottering about and Amellia was waking up and doing some drawing on her ipad.. when Dylan tottered over to her and sat up beside her all of his own accord. She then handed him her Ipad by choice and showed him what she was doing. She knows he really enjoys drawing so straight away he started to draw, he then took his little hand and placed it on hers. The squeal of delight out of Amellia was just magical. She didn’t want to move and declared this day to me as “The best day in her whole life” This is something that she has been waiting for, for a very long time!
img_4845They then sat like this for the next ten-fifteen minutes swapping whoevers hand was on top, while I melted with happiness for my little girl. This is the connection that she has been dying to get from her little brother since he was born and finally her dreams were coming true ❤
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I had seen that the friendship was growing rather steadily recently, like something had just clicked. She seemed to know when he didn’t want fussed over but was very quick to jump in when he was in a playful mood or was doing something she could do along side him! She did a lot of running about the house beside him before he would even acknowledge that she was there, but now he is looking for her when he starts running about, its magical.

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The other day they had lots of fun out on the trampoline together and Dylan got very upset when she got off, so she then got back on and bounced with him again! Then before she left she handed him a bit of chalk to draw with a zipped the trampoline up so he couldn’t get off by himself! This showed to me that she understood his cry was for her to come back, she then found something to distract him before she left and she also made sure her little brother was safe and couldn’t get hurt.

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This was on Thursday, she had gotten into the car beside him, and as you can see by her face, she is being careful not to touch him too much with her arm! He stayed a minute or two longer then was ready to depart and go back to the trampoline. His most favorite thing in the garden!

They are slowly working each other out, but today has been a big step in the right direction. I couldn’t be more proud of them both. When you have your sibling who understands you and supports you, it can really help you along.  ❤

WeeOhana xx

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Technology

“What shall we do tonight?” This seems to be a magical question my hubby asks me every night when the little one is in bed … My general reply is that I don’t mind… Mainly because there isn’t really too much we can do while sitting in the house that is overly entertaining! Generally it ends up with him playing the ps3 or us playing on some form of technology! He asks me like he expects me to answer with the most exciting idea, like ride a unicorn or something magical! We then end up passing the I don’t kind, you choose, what do you want to do type of conversation. Sometimes I find myself thinking on how I wish how we could just go for a walk, an ice cream, a meal, cinema, anything that can be spontaneously done. Unfortunately we as mums and dads know that really isn’t possible! I mean who can just leave a 2 year old up in bed while they head out for the night!

Technology is such a huge thing, I don’t think many people would know what to do without it anymore! It’s fantastic in some ways because yes the t.v lets everyone hear the news about places all over the world, let’s us contact our friends and family in times of need or just when we fancy a catch up! I can text my friend for example and within five minutes I will generally have a reply. Without technology that wouldn’t happen, unless of course we were face to face, which would probably happen more often than it does nowadays! In emergency situations or for organising things to do its great, but is also find people use it a lot more for gossip and general chat. I have started trying to when someone is to start a conversation with me via text is invite them over for coffee so that we can really chat and see each other, but generally people are too busy, working, or want to make plans for weeks in advanced! (Which at the moment with my baby brain are generally forgotten well before they actually happen!)

Technology is great in aiding children in learning, for example with watching videos or children doing these new apps. My little one has never had any interest in doing real puzzles and as soon as you help her to build one she is walking over it destroying it.. Pretending to be a dinosaur! I downloaded a puzzle app on my ipad for kids to just see how she took to it, she loves it and asks to play it on a daily basis! I say no and try to get her to do real puzzles, but she tells me they aren’t as fun. I try making all the noises that the app does and talking to her and asking her about the picture but yet still she isn’t satisfied! Give her my ipad and away she goes doing the puzzles on this app that I never thought she would have any interest in doing and will sit there for ages doing to them! Yes it is fantastic that she is now doing puzzles and ever so slightly starting to try to do real ones it makes me feel a little flawed as a mother! She would rated sit and use my ipad for them and not have to interact with me, then have me dancing about like an idiot, making all the noises and being fully Involved with her learning! On the plus side she is learning I suppose and I think technology is something that we all just have to accept nowadays as the norm and that it is the way forward! Obviously though I like to limit how long she uses it for, what for and so forth! Wouldn’t be too chuffed if she just sat and played game with no educational thing in them!

As I’m typing this I can see my hubby throwing his arm up and will more than likely complain soon about how the other team playing against him in his game “didn’t deserve that” or something along those lines! I always find it so funny when he gets angry at his games! He gets so worked up then like most people I suppose.. Complains that the game has been made harder etc! As long as he doesn’t launch the controller at the huge t.v we have then it’s all fun & game 😀

I think as mums we have to really embrace technology and try to keep up to date with the new things and what is what! On things that can help them educationally obviously and not just what game is next to be released and what everyone is playing! 😛 I dread to think how much technology there will be in the world when my little one is grown up or in school, but I’m going to be a mum to embrace this and accept change! 🙂
What do you think about technology? Lover or a hater?

Time to go and tell my little rascal to get back to bed!
Over and out; WeeOhana x