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Learning Curve to friendship <3

Amellia has been working really hard on building up her relationship with Dylan. She understands that he is a little different to others and that he doesn’t enjoy touching, close contact or really playing with her. Though I’m sure you can see how this is very difficult for a five year old to have to understand, and to follow through with. This is especially hard for her as she is basically the polar opposite of Dylan!

She wants to shower him with love and care. She wants to play with him 24/7, kiss and cuddle him and have in-depth conversations about what they are building with the Duplo blocks.. but she has slowly learnt that this isn’t going to get her very high up in Dylans popularity list. When he was building she used to go over and try and help and he would get frustrated at her and hit out, I always found this very hard to watch and explain to her over and over again. She wasn’t doing it out of badness, she just wanted to play and engage with her brother like she would other children. Whenever she then came anywhere near him he would hit out, try to bite her, scream etc at her.. and he still does now but not to anywhere near the same extent. They are both learning how each other work. She knows that if she goes and does something he can’t explain to her he is happy by himself so he will shout or do something else to show her, he has also learnt that not every time she walks past him or sits near that she is going to interrupt what he is doing.

I have seen huge progress between them recently, like all of a sudden they have clicked. They understand each other that little better and she understands why he is a little different and has accepted that she needs to treat him a little differently. Friday, was a huge moment for them. We came down in the morning when they had both awoken and Dylan was pottering about and Amellia was waking up and doing some drawing on her ipad.. when Dylan tottered over to her and sat up beside her all of his own accord. She then handed him her Ipad by choice and showed him what she was doing. She knows he really enjoys drawing so straight away he started to draw, he then took his little hand and placed it on hers. The squeal of delight out of Amellia was just magical. She didn’t want to move and declared this day to me as “The best day in her whole life” This is something that she has been waiting for, for a very long time!
img_4845They then sat like this for the next ten-fifteen minutes swapping whoevers hand was on top, while I melted with happiness for my little girl. This is the connection that she has been dying to get from her little brother since he was born and finally her dreams were coming true ❤
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I had seen that the friendship was growing rather steadily recently, like something had just clicked. She seemed to know when he didn’t want fussed over but was very quick to jump in when he was in a playful mood or was doing something she could do along side him! She did a lot of running about the house beside him before he would even acknowledge that she was there, but now he is looking for her when he starts running about, its magical.

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The other day they had lots of fun out on the trampoline together and Dylan got very upset when she got off, so she then got back on and bounced with him again! Then before she left she handed him a bit of chalk to draw with a zipped the trampoline up so he couldn’t get off by himself! This showed to me that she understood his cry was for her to come back, she then found something to distract him before she left and she also made sure her little brother was safe and couldn’t get hurt.

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This was on Thursday, she had gotten into the car beside him, and as you can see by her face, she is being careful not to touch him too much with her arm! He stayed a minute or two longer then was ready to depart and go back to the trampoline. His most favorite thing in the garden!

They are slowly working each other out, but today has been a big step in the right direction. I couldn’t be more proud of them both. When you have your sibling who understands you and supports you, it can really help you along.  ❤

WeeOhana xx

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Dear Husband..

Dear Husband;
You are simply amazing. I don’t tell you often enough how wonderful you are, how strong you keep us as a family unit and just how much I love you. This past year has been a very tough one for our family, life changing things have appeared that we never thought we would have to face. We have faced some real challenge as a couple learning to accept the things that have been thrown in our path. I feel that we are now a lot stronger than we were before, and we will continue to build up skywards, together.

I must admit at the start of all this we grew apart, drastically. It really scared me, I didn’t know how I would make it through all this without you by my side as support. I thought we were going down a long and horrible road, and we were going to have to do it apart. All of this coupled with my issues that I have, has been extremely scary, I felt very low and because of this started to push you even further away and I honestly don’t know how you stuck by my side. You didn’t deserve it, and it made us argue, disagree, row and everything else a happily married couple should not do. It was horrible, I hated myself more and more, but I just couldn’t get out of that rut. I still find some days tough and I’m sure you do too, even though being a manly man that you are you don’t admit it.

I am so glad now that we are stronger than we have ever been and that we tackling everything thrown at us together. You are my best friend, my soul mate, my shoulder to cry on, my companion, the one who laughs at my stupid jokes, helps me spell silly words that I just can’t grasp, you make me smile when it has been tough day, cuddle me when there just isn’t any words to explain what I am feeling or what is going on in my head. You make the world seem a little less scary, you hold my hand when times are tough, you help me relax when things are getting on top of me, you guide me when I just can’t guide myself, you make me feel beautiful even when I am wearing the same clothes that I had on when you left for work, you give me the confidence to carry on, you give me the strength to keep my head above water when it feels like I could so easily slip under and you make me feel loved; when I just can’t understand how anyone could.

I really can’t thank you enough for all that you do, you accepted me for who I am and took both me and my wonderful daughter under your wing and treat us like royalty (most of the time ;]) You are the greatest father I could ask for my children. You always put them first and make sure they are happy and have everything they could ever dream of.
We all really love you and couldn’t do this without you.
You, are simply incredible.
My 1 in 7 billion.
My best friend.
My husband.

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Time Apart!

I think whenever you have more than one child it is important to make sure they get to spend time with you separately and for things that fit there age or wants as well! Especially whenever one of the children in your family has a special need, as it really does effect everyone’s life in the family. I always find myself feeling guilty because whenever I take my pair out together it is aways known that if Dylan isn’t happy we will have to leave. As much as this isn’t fair on my little girl, it is what has to happen. She is very good and if Dylan isn’t happy whenever we get somewhere she knows that she gets five minuites then it is time to go. Unless I’m  having a day where I want to take on the world and can ignore the looks. I always feel incredibly guilty when we have to leave, especialy if we haven’t been there long.. i think it is hard as a mum as well to accept that your child doesn’t really enjoy what the majoirty of children love. A trip to the local park can be upsetting for both my children, as it could be too nosey/buzy etc for Dylan which then means we have to leave. It is also then upsetting for me as I then feel bad that my little girl has had to be disappointed etc! Though I am very good at keeping a strong front on infront of the kids!

My husband and myself decided that in the new year we would try and do things seperatly at least once a month with my little girl, as she loves things such as going out for dinner, going to the cinema or going shopping for some new clothes! These are some of the top things that my little boy really struggles with, but it isn’t fair for her not to experience these because of that! This month it was my turn, so I decided that I would actually bring her down to see my mum and dads new house in Dublin! Obviously this is something that I wish we could enjoy as a family, exploring a new city/parks/shops/restuarants/musuems but he really wouldn’t be able to cope at all, espeically with staying somewhere unfamiliar too! Hubby had the weekend off so me and my wonderful daughter headed off!

We have had a fantastic time! The drive down is approx two hours long, and she decided to chat the whole drive down. It was wonderful, we chatted about such a range of things, from why there was a tractor on the road to how come they hadn’t  invented time travel yet so that we could just appear at nanny annd grampys without having to sit still for so long! (Sitting still isn’t her strong point!) Once we got to my mum and dads it was bed time really, but not without a tour around the house and some food to fill her little belly!

The next day we all headed out for a walk around the park and to get some breakfast! It was a lot colder than we expected though so we really didn’t get too much of a walk done before everyone thought there hands were going to fall off! We then found a little market and got a crepe for breakfast and picked up some rather wonderful Macarons handmade by a little French woman, they were incredible! I am actually pretty annoyed I only bought one box of them and wish I had got another box to take home with me! They were just super scrummy! 


It was then home time to warm up and let grampy watch the rugby! We spent this time drawing lots of pictures, watching videos on the ipad and chatting to nanny about everything that crossed our minds! After the rugby was over and we were all bathed and ready we went out for some dinner! We went to a lovely little Chinese down the road, which served food nice and quick (perfect for kids!) it was also really tasty too so it was a winner! 

Today we got up and thought it didn’t look as cold as yesterday, so headed off to the beach for a walk.. wha a terrible idea! If you have me on instagram you will have seen how windy it was! If you haven’t you should add me, I would love a few new followers and people to follow! =] ;] (weeohana) << my instagram

After the beech we went to a park and for some lunch! We then popped to a nice little shop and picked up some dinner and Amellia loved looking at all the fish they had there for sale! 


It was then home time and Grampy had more rugby to watch! But not before playing a little!


We then headed to our room and snuggled on the bed while everyone else was busy. I really enjoyed the time just laying there together and relaxing, something me and her never get t0 do anymore! Tomorrow we are heading home and I really look forward to the conversations we have in the car on the way home! Also to get home and give Dylan a really big snuggle,and my hubby of course 😛 

Hope you all have had a wonderful weekend and have a good week! 

WeeOhana xx 

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A Miracle! – The Rabbit who wants to fall asleep!

Recently there has been a lot of people ranting and raving about how fantastic the book “The rabbit who wants to fall asleep” is! Being the person I am I thought that it would never work.. but seeing more and more reviews and people going crazy for it, I thought I had to give it a shot!

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If you haven’t heard of this book, it is written by the Swedish psychologist Carl-Johan Forssen Ehrlin. She promises to have a child nodding off in no time, with a perfect combination of sentence structure and hypnotic words. Now my child is a very energetic one, and she did use to sleep really well, but as of recent it has taken a long time to get her to go to sleep, especially in her own bed! We tried the usual of star charts, getting to go places if she went to sleep first time and slept in her own bed.. everything! Nothing seemed to be working.. Until now!

The way the book works is that is gives suggestions to your child without your child really realizing that it is time to sleep, and to relax. It is important that you look at this book yourself first before you read it to your child as at the front it explains to you what all the different text styles mean in book. for example, if it is italics you read the words slowly and in a calm voice. It really helps to familiarize yourself with the book first before trying to read it right off the bat! There is also an audiobook of it which you can listen to with your child, or as I did, I listened to it first to see how it was intended to be read!

Here is the link to the audio of it on youtube! You could also play this to your child!

When I first got the book I was a bit thrown back by how long it was, 10 pages with small writing on them! My initial reaction was that.. she is never going to stay still long enough for me to finish this and i going to be up there for ages trying to get her to stay still and to listen to the whole book.. but I didn’t let this out me off! I went on with and thought that I would give it a chance!
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Night 1 – She didn’t want to lay down, I got quizzed about every character, she didn’t like the wizard and she didn’t like the name of the snail. Though as I continued to read the story to her I could see that it was making her tired, and she didn’t like this! She was shaking her head, holding her eyes open and the such, fighting lovely sleep! Why would you do that! I left her room after reading it to her and she was asleep very quickly and didn’t come down stairs at all.. normally it would be at least three times! I was then convinced that she was on to what this book was wanting and would not be letting me read it to her again!

Night 2 – When she was doing her night time routine of going to the toilet and brushing her teeth she asked me would I read her the sleepy book again and would I call the rabbit something different and not do the wizard bit with the magic dust as it got in her eyes, so I did this. She didn’t ask as many questions about the book and lay down the whole time! She asked me to sit on the floor so that she could put her ffeet of the duvet and rolled over and was actually listening to the story without 1001 questions and was so close to sleeping! Though again she didn’t come down once and I’m assuming she was asleep very quickly! This gave me a bit more hope about the book, as it was obviously helping her get to sleep!

Night 3(tonight) – She wasn’t as convinced that she wanted the same story again (I don’t blame her!) but I told her that I would change the names to whatever she wanted again and then she was excited for it again! She lay in her bed and I sat on the floor from the start so that she would be able to get comfy! At the start she was asking me questions and could I change the story etc.. So I tried to a bit!(oops sorry!) Though it was just missing out certain bits that I knew got her asking questions etc .. she curled up to how she normally falls asleep before the first page had finished and then stopped asking questions, was shuffling about so I carried on reading.. by some miracle she was asleep by page four! I was amazed.. I came skipping downstairs to my husband to let him know how quickly she had fallen asleep, without any questions or being told to lay day several times! She just did it all by herself! This book really works!

Now for my review and honest thoughts on it all;
It is absolutely fantastic that this book made her go to sleep while I was reading it, even if it wasn’t the first night, it clearly helped her relax greatly! I am still amazed that a book could help her fall asleep and that she didn’t get bored by it, or tell me that she wanted something else! I can see how it works because the amount of times that the word sleep/relax is incorporated into the story! I’m hoping to read it to her one more night and then be able to read her other stories and she will fall asleep to any one as she knows that she can then relax and listen to the story rather than asking 101 questions about why someone is saying what, or doing what etc! I wouldn’t want to be reading her this book every night mainly because at the moment there is only one and she will quickly bore of it, though they do plan to make more!  Also because I rather enjoy letting her chose a book at bed time! I do think I will incorporate this book into our life though! If she has had a long day, is going to have a long day the next day, or has something stressful (first day of preschool) etc coming up I will read it to her then!
So; if you have a child who is difficult at bed time, i really urge that you try out this book! You will not know what has happened! Give it a few days though and don’t expect it to work straight away! You must try it though!  :]

If you do end up trying it let me know how you get on with it!
I hope you are as amazed as me!
WeeOhana

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Belfast Zoo!

We woke up and the sun was shining! We decided to promptly get in the car and head to the zoo for a family trip seeing as the hubby was off and it was a lovely day! Though on our way up. the rain started and even though it tried, it did not damped our spirits! Whenever we got there we just made sure to get our little girl a poncho so that she would be kept dry and happy! Out little mans hood on his pram was huge so it would cover him and keep him dry enough!

On we went, we saw lots of animals, but we were very disappointed that the bears were being kept inside! It was to make there enclosure better for them though, so that makes it ok! =] In Belfast zoo they have a very large hill.. we decided to ignore it and not go up to the top of it because last time if I remember correctly there wasn’t very much up there but our reason this time.. was the huge hailstones that came out of nowhere.. they were the biggest hailstones that I had ever seen! We ran for cover up at the monkeys! We ended up staying in there for about an hour.. and it was great! My little girl was looking through the glass when a young monkey came up to the glass and stuck its tongue out at her! It made her day, and seeing her so happy made us forget about just how soaked we had got running for cover!

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These little lovebird Bats were my husbands favorite thing that he saw in the zoo! He got very excited by being able to see some! They were very cute as you can see! =]


My daughter really loved this giant tarantula that you could climb on! We had to go back to it several times for her! She loves creepy crawlies!

We were disappointed though by the souvenir shop as we could not find a single thing that we wanted to get for the kids, nor could the little ones! So that was a bit of a let down as we really wanted to get something as a little memory!

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Q&A for 3 year old!

Bit of a random blog, but thought you guys would enjoy it & those of you with children may get a little giggle doing it with them! If you do decide to do it with your little ones I would love to hear what they say!  = ]

There is this thing going about on Facebook, where you ask your child a list of questions and write down what they answer unprompted! My little one.. well poo features a lot.. but generally that’s what she says when she doesn’t have a clue what to say, or is bored.. close to the end I had to ask the questions several times to get an answer! Which I don’t really blame her.. what three year old has a good attention span!

Without any prompting, ask your child these questions and write down exactly what they say. Its a great way to find out what they really think

1. What is something mum always says to you ?
Pee in the toilet

2. What makes you happy?
Pikachu!!

3. How does mum make you laugh?
By tickling me!

4. What makes mum sad?
Daddy talking to her angry

5. What was mum like as a child?
Poopy..

6. How old is mum?
Your two .. like me

7. How tall is mum?
This tall!!!! “Shows a random size*

8. What is mums favorite thing to do?
Play arts and crafts!

9. What does mum do when you’re not around?
Go out with Stephen or nanny

10. What is your mum really good at?
Projects

11. What is mum not really good at?
Poo poo

12. What does your mum do for a job?
Going back to the house

13. What is your mums favorite food?
Liquorice

14. What makes you proud of your mum?
You pooping in the toilet …

15. What do you and your mum do together?
Do arts and crafts

16. How are you and your mum.the same?
I’m playing dress up!!

17. How are you and your mum different?
I’m big … I shrank!

18. How do you know mum loves you?
She says it lots! =D

19. What does mum like most about dad?
Poo Poo

20. Where’s mum favourite place to go?
Sleepy town ..

21. How old was mummy when she had you?
This old!! “Shows size with arms”

Without any prompting, ask your child these questions and write down exactly what they say. Its a great way to find out what they really think

1. What is something mum always says to you ?

2. What makes you happy?

3. How does mum make you laugh?

4. What makes mum sad?

5. What was mum like as a child?

6. How old is mum?

7. How tall is mum?

8. What is mums favourite thing to do ?

9. What does mum do when you’re not around?

10. What is your mum really good at?

11. What is mum not really good at?

12. What does your mum do for a job?

13. What is your mums favourite food?

14. What makes you proud of your mum?

15. What do you and your mum do together ?

16. How are you and your mum.the same?

17. How are you and your mum different?

18. How do you know mum loves you?

19. What does mum like most about dad?

20. Where’s mum favourite place to go?

21. How old was mummy when she had you?

So I hope you enjoyed that little insight into my three year olds crazy brain!
Let me know how you get along asking your children! I always find these things funny, with just how innocent and honest they answer!
WeeOhana xx

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Crawfordsburn Country Park!

Recently I have decided that we as a family, will be going out more! As comical as that sounds, you sometimes get stuck in a rut of relaxing, seeing family and the such whenever you are all free. Though we need us time, time to spend doing fun things as a family, making memories, having fun and just enjoying being together! So every time the husband is off work, we are going to do something! Go for a walk, exploring, visiting fun sites! I am going to compile a list of things/places that I want to visit and each time he is off we are going to tick another one off! =] I will put the list up here whenever I have it sorted, and it may give you some ideas of what to do if you’re from Northern Ireland or if you come here on a visit!

The first place that we went to was Crawfordsburn Country Park. It is basically a lovely forest walk, and there is also a beach too, so its sort of like two things in one! If you explore deep enough into the forest you can find a waterfall. Where you park there is also a little visitors center, which on our visit had a great range of stuffed animals, information about sea pollution and little activities to do with the young ones! It was fab! They also had a lovely little cafe which we got some food in and it was rather delicious!

We didn’t get to explore deep enough to find the waterfall, but that is because we first of all went to a field in the park and she ran about like crazy there and then went to the beach! We went for a nice walk into the forest, but we couldn’t find the waterfall and by the time that we were on the right track (or at least we thought we were ;]) she was knackered.. and I was pretty hungry! My little man was also nearing his bottle time, so we headed to the visitors center & cafe. My little girl then got distracted by the activities and looking at the stuffed animals, there was also a badger den that you could crawl about inside! She was eager to do this, but not being very keen on the dark.. she asked daddy to go in with her.. which he did! It was comical to watch, but very adorable! He would do anything for her, and there special little bond is just wonderful! It always makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside watching them play together, run about, make up stories, cuddle and just be themselves with each other, its amazing! Something I was very worried my daughter wouldn’t get with a man, and now she has! :]

Dylan was in his carrier and loved looking about and seeing the world from a proper view! He was gurgling and smiling away, it was so nice that we could go to a country park, walk about the muddy path and the beach without worrying about navigating a pram! It felt great us all having fun, enjoying the fresh air, running about the beach without having to feel like one of us couldn’t be involved(well two really) because we had to stand with the pram!

After exploring the visitor center we then went and got a bite to eat, my little girl got a giant plate of chicken nuggets & chips, which I was surprised with how much she ate! Me & the hubby got fancy sandwiches.. which I must say were very delicious and some chips which were just yum! The little man… well obviously he enjoyed some milk!

So it was a fabulous day out all in all! Some lovely weather, tasty grub, exercise, fantastic company and bonding with my wonderful family! I do love them so much and they are just wonderful! I don’t tell them often enough! I really appreciate and enjoy days out! They mean a lot and bring wonderful happy memories with them!

Me & my wonderful pair! ❤

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Fambam ❤

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WeeOhana ❤