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The start of it all..

One of the first things that concerned me about Dylan was the fact that he didn’t respond to his name. Now, the normal age for children to start to respond to their name is seven months old, at this age I didn’t really have any concerns, minus him laughing and smiling late but it came in time so I just thought that it was me having high expectations after Amellia being a pretty advanced little one! Though whenever he started walking, running and all those fun things that occur once they are moving and he was still not responding to his name I started to get pretty anxious about why this was. He also had no response to simple requests or questions that children would usually love to respond to, like showing you what they are playing with, or asking them to bring you something to see.
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First of all, I questioned his hearing, but he would turn to certain things like the door opening, dropping of coins and many other things, but his name was something he just didn’t recognise or respond to at all.
Along with this he also tip toe walked everywhere and even when he was in shoes. At the start, I thought that he was just getting used to walking, but as time progressed and he was always walking on his tip toes and would even go over onto the fronts of his toes when stood still I really started to worry. This coupled with his lack of response to his name started the cogs in my burn turning a little faster on the panic front.

When we were transitioning from baby food onto finger foods he had a really strong dislike to everything that wasn’t pure mush like his baby food. He was on 6 months+ baby food until he was about one and a half, he just wouldn’t take anything at all with lumps in it and if he discovered a lump he would just spit it out and refuse to eat anymore. We tried really hard to encourage him to eat the lumpier food, but he then stopped eating it at all and just wouldn’t eat and obviously this is not good for anyone. He had started to eat crisps and digestive biscuits (still his favourite snack!) so I wasn’t concerned about the muscles in his mouth or throat because this was a worry when he wouldn’t eat lumps because we thought maybe he just struggled to chew them up or swallow them, but we quickly learnt from his select few snacks he ate that he could chew and swallow solider things ok. This then became a worry as it was obviously sensory related, so this was another red flag that had went up in my head.

He also had a huge dislike to any sort of feelings on his feet, he wouldn’t walk on the grass or sand and got very distraught by this. That was another thing, whenever he got upset, it wasn’t a ‘normal’ tantrum or upset. It would take a very long time for him to be able to calm down and he would head bang, and many other things to harm himself. Along with stimming whenever things were getting too much for him.
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When he was younger he used to babble a bit, and then one day, he just stopped. Nothing. No babbling and he has always had little to no eye contact.  Whenever this happened and everyone was still telling me that I was being silly, and that he would do these things in time I decided that I would go with the strong gut feeling that I had I would contact my health visitor.
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I was hoping that she would tell me that I was being silly, but I knew in my heart and head that this would be not be the case. She came over the next day and asked me what my concerns were, whenever I told her she asked had I been using google (who doesn’t nowadays!) and I said yes, I had, so she nodded and then watched Dylan.  After about fifteen minutes she looked at me and said that she was hoping she would come here and tell me that she would be back in three months and that she was sure he would have caught up to his peers by then but unfortunately this wasn’t the case with Dylan. She told me that I was right to contact her and she started to fill out a form, she wanted to get his referral to the children’s hospital done as soon as possible so that we could get him the help he needed.. and so started the whole process of waiting for appointments, worrying and overthinking every single thing.

-WeeOhana

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Leaps?

We all find different things useful and some babies take dislikes or likes to what others like! Children are all individuals, even when they are little tiny newborns! People seem to think that they have to follow certain routines, do certain things and even follow a line of weigh gain! To me, this is madness! My little man will roll over when he wants, talk when he wants, cry when he wants and weigh as much as he wants! In a group that I am in people are even obsessed with this “Leap” thing.. now I don’t know much about it.. but they are all hooked on the idea that there babies go through certain leaps at certain ages and they last for a said amount of time. For example they are mainly all going through “leap 4”? at the moment! I don’t have a clue what it means, but from reading what they say.. it basically means there baby cries constantly with nothing settling them.. they blame this all on leap 4. Some of them seem to be going crazy asking others for advice on what to do… my advice.. cuddle them, show them a toy, take them for a walk, change there nappy, give them some more milk.. or all the normal things that we try! They always come back with.. no they had milk an hour ago, nappy just changed they just wont stop crying.. to me this sounds crazy that they haven’t tried more milk! It to me is what I go to after trying all of the above, and generally it works straight away and he goes fast asleep! Babies can be hungry whenever they want, they are growing in all ways and that takes a lot of work! They all seem to think that there babies can only eat every four hours and will not be hungry again. Madness, right? Maybe because they have got these ideas planted in there minds, and thoughts they are obsessing and then stressing out about it so the baby then picks up on the bad vibes and upset of there mummies so it upsets them! I don’t know.. Do any of you guys follow this leap idea? Care to enlighten me about it! Do you agree that all babies should do the same things, at the same time and follow the weight & height “line”? Am I just extremely lucky that for the past few weeks my baby boy hasn’t been screaming his head off all the time without anything comforting him?

I would love to hear your thoughts!

WeeOhana x

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Sick little girl :,(

My house today is scarily quiet. My poor little three year old is sick, and for the first time in a long time is taking a nap. I’m sure those of you who have children know how painful it is to see them ill, you just want to have it yourself instead! =[

At 3am this morning she came into my bedroom and crawled up onto the bed, I thought she was up to her old tricks until she touched me and her little palms were roasting hot, then upon looking at her little face her cheeks, nose and forehead were bright red. Poor little soul! I then got her to lay on the bed while I went to get the thermometer and some calpol! We have a snazzy little one that you don’t have to put against your head, you hold it in front of there forehead and if they have a high fever its red, then orange for a little over and green whenever the temperature is fine. She looked at me all frail looking and said “mummy please don’t let it go red” Sure enough it went red, my poor little baby! So I took off her pjs and gave her some calpol! She quickly fell asleep and I was hoping she would be her usual energetic self this morning .. She wasn’t :,( she has now spent the majority of her day on the floor in her duvet either fighting sleep or sleeping! She is like a little furnace! Also really unlike her she doesn’t want to eat anything at all.. not even ice cream and I’m generally begged for that daily!

I feel completely useless as nothing I can do to make her feel better.. all she wants to do is cuddle then complains she’s too warm so gets annoyed then wants to cuddle again after five mins! I so hope tomorrow she wakes up her normal hyper self or we will be off to the doctors! 39.2 tempurate, bless her :,( image

Anyway I must dash and try and hunt out things to help her and to look after her!
Any thing that you guys do to help your little ones feel more comfortable? Help!! 😦

Weeohana xxx

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Even though I am in a great deal of pain, and my bump is somewhat massive and still growing, I just don’t seem to feel pregnant! I am finding it really strange mainly because of how this pregnancy has gone, hasn’t been smooth sailing at all like my first and has been constantly reminding me that I am pregnant. I mean, I know I’m going to have a baby, it just doesn’t feel real! its confusing to explain.. I’m sure your probably all reading this thinking, what is she going on about! I suppose the easiest way to explain it, is I know I’m having a baby, but it doesn’t feel like the baby will be here in less than two months!

Today to try and help myself realise that a baby will be in this house shortly, I built & made the cot up! Luckily my lovely mum came round to help me, because with my SPD I really couldn’t have managed to do it by myself while trying to contain a three year old too! It is very upsetting and makes me feel very weak and pathetic that I can’t do these simple tasks! I also think that is another reason why I don’t feel like the baby will be here soon, or at least am in denial about the baby being here so soon because I can’t do things to prepare the house and all that fun jazz! I must say though my mum and my family have been such a fantastic help through all this! I really do appreciate all they do for me! At the moment I am relying on my mum a great deal because my hubby works shifts, which sucks in these kind of situations. well actually it sucks full stop, but I can’t complain because when he is here, he is fantastic its just the trying to get him here and awake! My mum though really is my best friend, she is just so wonderful! She has been taking me wherever I need to/fancy going, taking my little one to and from play school and plenty of other things. I think without her help at the moment I would end up just staying in bed all day watching DVDS with my little girl eating rubbish all the time! Though now that I think of doing that, it actually sounds like a good plan! =D My sister and my dad have also been great, as they have taken my little one out on adventures and stopped her from being trapped inside. Taking her out also helps to waste her energy.. she is very energetic for a little one… she would run circles all day constantly while talking if you let her!

Anyway, I got distracted sorry! So we built the cot and got the bedding put on to it, it is such a cute little themem and I am even happier with it now it is on the cot! I loved it when we bought it.. obviously, or I wouldn’t have bought it, but now that it is on and all set up, it is so beautiful! Here is a little picture so that you guys can admire it too!

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isn’t the turtle just wonderful! I have the matching changing mat, towel, and all that kind of jazz that you need for a bay! 😛  Now I am just on the count down till the wardrobes and the rest arrive! Not long now, they are being delivered on Tuesday! Then I can get the mountain of clothes sorted and his room will start to look like a room, rather than a dumping ground for clothes and the likes!

I didn’t think my bump could get any bigger.. but every morning when I wake up it seems to be getting bigger and my clothes are getting smaller! I’m sure one of these days my tummy is literally going to explode! This morning actually my little girl said the most cutest thing ever, she cuddled into my bump and said “you are going to be the best baby brother, I can’t wait to change your nappy. I love you” How precious ❤ Though if she is interested in changing the nappies, she may work away.. I must admit that isn’t the bit I am most excited for!

Here is my 33+2 bump! I feel huge! =[ what do you think?

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This post has been very random and a bit, different? to my others.
So I hope you still enjoy this! Let me know what you think?

WeeOhana xx